Is it wrong to leave your husband if he is disabled from a car accident but now he is becoming very abusive?

Wait 'til after the settlement is received.

You are an adult and you already know the difference between what's wrong and right so that's really not the point of you question now is it?

If you are looking for justification others have already given that to you.

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Your husband just needs an attitude adjustment from an outside source because, he's not listening to you right now for what ever reason.

It is wrong of your husband to verbally and mentally abuse you whether he has been in an accident or not. You need to sit down and tell him that you will no longer put up with his abuse, if he doesn't stop it give him several weeks tell him that you will be leaving him and it will be on him to find someone else to take care of him.

He needs to go to counseling, and as a supportive wife, you should encourage him to seek help. Sounds like he has some issues to deal with, and the accident only added fuel to the fire and made his abusive tendencies worse. If he refuses to seek help and/or acknowledge that he has a problem, then you should walk away from your marriage, because no one deserves to be abused. And if you tried to get him help and he refused, at least you'll be able to walk away from the marriage knowing you tried and exhausted all options before leaving. Hopefully he'll seek counseling and you two can work towards repairing your relationship. Good Luck.

You don't say how long ago this accident happened, but I'm sure he is dealing with a lot of emotional issues over it.

You owe it to your wedding vows to try to help first - by maybe suggesting joint counseling, since he obviously needs some counseling. This could open the door to him getting help.

If he absolutely refuses, then let him know that you are considering leaving if things don't get better - he doesn't have the right to take his anger out on you.

You have to let him know that it is 'get help, or the marriage will be over'.

You need to try that first before you just bolt and leave him.

If he had a head injury, this would not be an unusual situation. Have you talked to his doc and is he on meds for his behavior?

You should not accept abusive behavior, certainly not physically violent behavior. If this behavior cannot be controlled, you would be justified in leaving the marriage.

Yes his self pity is destructive. Personally I think it's best to do everything you can first. Go see his doctor and tell him/her what's happening. Find things/projects he likes to do and support this. When his temper becomes violent go out with friends. Tell him you love him and it's not wise to treat you as if you were the driver who hit him. This will redirect his temper to whom he is truly angry at. Understand his new life will take some getting used to and allow him to be frustrated but help him find solutions.

I know you probably feel guilty for not staying with him, but you deserve to be happy too. Just because he's disabled does not give him the right to be verbally abusive to you. Try to get him to go to counseling, if he won't help himself, there isn't much you can do for him.

I did get disabled in an commercial twist of destiny, and my GF and that i did chop up up. i can nonetheless walk slightly, so i can visit the washing room, bathe, and so on. myself, yet use a wheel chair for plenty of interest, and do want somebody to push for me. She became additionally disappointed, i think of, that my earnings went down lots, as my revenues, whilst i became working, became fairly sturdy ($25+/hr) and incapacity is a lot decrease. in any case, she lost interest in intercourse with me, and with the decrease earnings, she began to look for 'greener pastures' and damned if she did not discover them. the place ever you artwork, be careful!!!!

You need to understand he is going though something that has effected him greatly. You might have to give him some time to adjust. It's not just what going on with him physically. it's whats going on emotionally. You are the only one there, so he takes it out on you. It doesn't necessarily mean that he is doing it on purpose. You need to be understanding and give it some time.

eveyrthing has a reason for happening? why he's so abusive since the accident?

is tht he feel sorry for himself, and mostly for you. he might feel that he ruin rest of your life.

just give him a little of time, let him think through it, and help him out.

you are the only one he has now, dont leave him