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Is dropping a friend okay?

Have an old friend (40ish) that months ago went through a huge lifechaging breakup. I helped her through it only to find she now has a new man shes dating. Hes possessive, a real red flag. She says he makes her happy, that shes in love. Recently, he attacked me verbally over a misunderstanding. Ranting, accusing and making her cry. He put her in the middle and I decided since "she loved him" to let matters be. She needs to see with her own eyes, his true colors.I have had no communication with her since so he would calm down. Did I do the right thing? I feel as though I abandoned her.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    You did exactly what needed to be done. Leave her alone. She has to learn on her own. No you did not abandon her, don't feel guilty. You did the right thing. She may be with someone who is completely bad for her, but that was her choice. You need to accept the decision she made to be with the loser, and move on from her. Focus on yourself, and get on with your life. Good luck.

  • 1 decade ago

    It's tough to be in that type of situation. You don't want to see her get hurt but at the same time you don't want to get in the middle. If you'd already expressed your concerns and stated your views about him, and she didn't listen, I think you only have the choice but to step aside. I hope that she comes around herself, and when she does she will call you. You are not abandoning her, she is abandoning you.

    Good luck.

  • 1 decade ago

    I've been in that position before with a girl i liked and her boyfriend, all you can do is inform, she needs to make her own decisions, and if you feel it'd be easier for you to cope with it, then dropping a friend is completely okay. I've done it many times, because its hard to deal with when you know a lot that they don't. just make sure it's for the right reasons. you need to make yourself happy.

  • 1 decade ago

    ive had that happen just not verbally attacked.Her eyes will open it will be okay,and if not you know since shes so inlove she has him,no abandonment,

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I reckon you did the right thing. Just let her know you'll be around if she needs you.

  • 1 decade ago

    drop her, no

    let things go a few mo, yes

  • 1 decade ago

    If YOU feel like you did wrong, then you did.

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