im suspecting that my husband has a relationship with my neighbour's sister but i need to confirm further?

Sounds like he is cheating. They aren't even hiding it well.

The fact that there is direct behavioral changes becuase you request it from your husband...that tells me he is communicating with her to "play nice".

I would suggest you tell him you are going to visit family for a few days. Stay at a hotel, and track his butt around town to gain evidence. That's if you want a smoking gun and cheap.

If you got a little cash, hire a Private investigator for a week.

Personally if the trust is gone down to this level, its better to stop looking for a "smoking gun" and just end it. Life's too short for games like this.

Tell him straight up to stop talking to her and tell him that the neiborgh girl needs to take her kids and let him know that if he doesn't that your filing for divorce you married him and he choose you as his partner and if he can't do this that your done. No where did it say in my vows that I have to share and tell him that your done and if you see any other behavior your looking for an apt. if he gets defensive or he says no save yourself a lot of heartache and move on plenty of guys want a woman like you that's trusting and caring and if he doesn't know what he has let him go. This is what I would do if my husband was doing this. If the environment gets uncomfortable then move away from her. It does sound like they're messing around sorry to say and this is a major reason that I don't let my husband have female friends because girls are shady and have no respect and he can find lots of men to cheat you can also find lots of men to be faithful he obviously doesn't appreciate what he has at home. Also when he does stop talking to her if she texts or calls your husband then confront her and let her know that he married you and that you will have him file sexual harassment charges if she looks at him touches him or anything. He belongs to you not her so start acting like it and stop wondering he's cheating!!!

Okay, let's break this down. It does not mean anything when you say that they always sit together and what your friend said about them kissing also means nothing as no one else saw it and she may have just said that to make it more interesting, so those issues can be thrown out. All we are left with is cuddling on the couch. I presume when you say cuddling, you mean embracing on the couch? This can be difficult, if you tell you parents your theory the odds are that they will deny it. If you talk to your siblings the odds are they will deny it also. My advice is to make sure what you think is happening is REALLY happening and it is not your imagination. Then approach your parents with your concerns. They may brush it off at first, but they will now pay more attention to your brother and sister.

This is like in the OJ trial, "If it fits you must aquit".

Way too much in these two's behavior indicates the bird ate the canary. Something went on with those two ..... but what? It is possible it's just innocent playing around and not sexual intercourse. But whatever it is you need to get to the bottom of these pronto.

Have you decided just what your going to do according to the circumstances? If you bring the two of them together in a room and ask if he is playing around she has nothing to lose he has everything to lose. Will you leave him? If you stay together you have to move you and your family. You can't remain there. So now where would you go? Also, you will need to be able to forgive him, not forget just forgive. Unless you plan on divorcing. But don't throw in the towel now. It is best to be open and above board on this one..... But do think of all sides of the consequences this will bring about. I wish you luck girl.

I would trust your instincts on this one.

You would know his behaviour well and will only kick yourself and feel like a mug if you ignore the signs.

I would come home unexpectedly or shake your day up staying in when you would usually be out and see what his reaction to that is.

If he's cheating he won't mind an opportunity to meet up whenever you're out of the way but would hate it if you were "in the way" when you're usually out!

i will not say he is cheating or he is not but if you are not exagarating in your story then all indicates that he nad that **** are having something going on and being the fools that they are, they even fail to hide it well, dont accuse him or confront him too much about the issue or else you will make them aware and thus making it hard for you to catch them, act blind, hire a private investigator or if you are clever enough you can catch them, they are fools, make a plan, bait them, catch them and you can get some blazing UZIs and shower the crap out of them with lead

Voice activated digital recorder hidden in car/ your home. It may put your mind at rest. You can also get a thing gamekeepers use - a motion detecting camera - will take a snapshot & date/time stamp - quite discreet. . .But yay. I'd also say that there is something slightly improper going on.

You don't need to confirm anything. If their relationship, innocent or otherwise, makes you uncomfortable, you have the right to confront them and make your husband stop seeing her. Ask your husband how he would feel if you acted this way with another man.

DO NOT accuse until confirmed. My husband accused me, starting spying on me etc. when I wasn't cheating and then I started doing things just to make him think I was cheating because I was mad he didn't trust me.

Hire a Private Investigator to do the dirty work for you. And don't say anything until you have results from that.

Maybe they are just friends. But, you need to have facts before making an issue out of this. Or, you can ask your husband to keep his distance from her.