How can I be less intemidating?

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Now, I am a really big strong guy.  I have trained in the martial arts for years and I am a very skilled fighter.  There are many deep scars on my face.  I have had stiches seven times, wires twice, and staples once, mostly from fights.  Been stabed twice and beat a 90 lb. pit bull nearly to death, with my bare hands after he tore my bottom lip off my face.  So yeah I'm not afraid of anything and I know people can sense that.  However, I try to act very cool, calm and freindly with others.  Nevertheless, when I approch somebody with a smile and nice cloths I get treated like I'm something very dangerous or poisonous.  Once I get to know someone it's okay but wow it's hard.

SeaGal · Accepted Answer

Some people tend to gather in groups or "clicks." Avoid these people and try to practice on a smaller number of 1 or 2 persons at a time.  Don't stretch that smile too big and don't get in a pant in front of another person. Don't bounce on your feet and act like you aren't afraid of anyone.  Just try to be yourself and say to yourself, "I like this Joe..what a fantastic, interesting person he/she is!"
Don't say that outloud though!!! If you think you really like someone, maybe you will worry less about your being accepted.  I wouldn't dress like a pimp either...u don't have to be showy or super classified..just be casual and friendly..that's the ticket. If you present yourself like an eager puppy, so eager and wanting..or not wanting...then you might appear to be a disease that needs to be treated or a gangy waiting for a touch.  :)  You can do it!  gl.

The Hamburglar · Answer

You think you are but you're not tough at all, I'll beat the living hell out of you you fool!

Jason · Answer

Wow. You Beat a dog. burn in hell asshole :)

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