Did your spouse have a child before you were married? Did you take that into consideration?

I would never seriously date a guy with children from prior relationships; it was THE deal-breaker for me, when I was dating; no exceptions. It's not only the financial obligations that are a concern to me in this situation, but the emotional and social obligations as well. It's difficult enough to find someone you are compatible with - how much more difficult would it be to make it work not just with him, but with his kids also? I have no desire to "mother" someone else's kids - it's hard enough for me to get motivated to have my own. I don't like having children around, or taking care of children. Financial obligations are actually a fairly insignificant part of the overall reason why I would never consider a serious relationship with a guy who is already a father: I believe that a step-parent should be fully committed to not just their spouse, but to the spouse's children as well; as a step-parent, you have to buy into it fully; and I knew I couldn't make such commitment.

Now that I'm older (and if I was single), I wouldn't be opposed to pursue a relationship with a guy whose kids were grown. As long as they were a well-adjusted family with no undue drama, I wouldn't mind grown kids being a part of the family. I understand that people have financial obligations to their families; in the country where I grew up, it is customary for adult children to support their aging parents, and it's an important part of my commitment to my parents; my husband understands that completely, and is fully supportive. In dating guys with children, the main turn-off for me has always been the emotional rather than the financial aspect of it - call me selfish, but I just never wanted to take responsibility for someone else's children, even part-time.

I have two kids from previous relationships, and I got married last year.

It should be a factor people consider. People can say love is love, we'll find a way. Well, you can think that way - there is nothing wrong with it. I know for myself that I have responsibilities to take care of the children I have before my marriage. My wife and I have had some problems concerning how much I pay for child support. When we got married, my money became her money too. Before we got married, my child's mother did not work. She wasn't happy with it since she believes I should support the child only. So, now I only support my kids financially.

Everything, including the children of a man you are dating, should be taken into consideration. They are a part of his life.

He had two and I had three and he was paying support for his youngest but that did not stop us from becoming a family.He paid 800.00 per month for 6 years until his youngest son moved in with us... his older one was living with us already at age 16.... I had no problem with the fact he paid support.Had he of been a dead beat dad I would not of considered staying with him...he could of had ten kids and I still would of married him...

I will say this..thank god the lot of them have all grown up and are out of the house,,whew..

Yes he had 2 girl both over the age of 17. But while dating I saw someone who had 3 kids under the age of 8 and did not want to see him seriously because of it. I married the one with the older girls.

My second husband has been divorced from his first wife for over 30 years....I am his second wife..he never had any children with anyone.

I have four from my first marriage...the youngest was 19 when we married.

My kids all like him....my adult kids were never an issue...still aren't...one reason I never even thought about dating until the youngest turned 18.

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I think the answer to both your questions is NO Janine

They are so busy just havin sex that when they get pregnant its too late

My husband has a daughter fvrom a previous relationship. We all get on well.

i dont think i would marry a guy who had a kid to much drama

Sugar , yes, yes. yes yes and yes.