would you leave her because she got raped and how she handled it?

the thing is that the way she dealed with is by blaming herself at first even do the only person that told knew told her it wasn't her fault. However she felt like the biggest slut and she began acting as kinda a slut. her previous boyfriend before me when ever he tried to touch her Intimately she would cry. She tried to fix that (must mention that it was a long long distance relationship) so this friend that knew also liked her and so she tried to find security and pleasure in sex with him. When she told her boyfriend that while they had broken up for 2 weeks she had been with this other guy the guy told her it was ok. He proposed and promises her an eternity told her to tell her parents. So she did,,, then he dumped her and told everyone in her home town she was a slut and was pregnant. So now she is also scar-ed by that. Now before we started dating she and i started out as mere sex i have loved her since high school and i love her now. But i think that a person never gets rape unless they do something is dumb. While i CAN probably deal with her getting rape i dint know if i can deal with what she did while she was away.

We talked and were friends with benefits for about 4 months then she went on a study abroad that was planned before we started talking again. when she left i told her not to come back pregnant and everything would be ok however as the time progressed she would constantly ask me if it really was ok. I really wont be ok cause even do i refused to be her BF till she came back i had to many emotions invested. However she did do as i said she found someone to tell about the rape about her ex and about me. She told me while she was there that she had thought about not coming back to me and staying with a guy she met. He offered her a house and i guess the ability to talk that she didn't feel she had with me. When she came back it took her a while ot tell me about the rape and about how she had handled the feelings. i am actually the third person to find out she never told anyone not even her parents or her friends.

i dont know what to do, do i leave her because she cheated even do she asked me a number of times to be her boyfriend and i said no. My feelings were invested but long distance relationships never work. Now we are together she has told me everything. I dont know i want to blame her for everything but if she didnt feel like i would understand her situation she was unable to deal with it and love me. she looked else where and found the support and she said that her wounds were healed enough to love me with her whole heart all of it. She is not a cheated she never understood why she did it now she does and she wants to be with me. She understand if i cant and she is sorry if it hurts me. She still doesnt think i am ready to hear it because i told her that if i person gets raped its their fault, but she cant be with me if she cant talk to me about her problems.