Men, What is he really thinking?

Marriage is often referred to as " taking the leap " because sometimes you don't make that landing on the other side and fall to your death.

I suspect he wants to be sure he has a good set up run before attempting it.

Sit him down and have a heart-to-heart with him about your expectations of the relationship. You've probably done this before, but you have to let him know that you mean business this time. "Enough screwing around" basically; just tell him how you feel about the situation.

Tell him that you feel that the time IS right, for you (if it is) and that you're ready to take the next step. Tell him that you WANT to get married; remind him that he's been knowing this for quite a long time now, and that if the two of you were going to break up surely you would have done so by now. Tell him that you're not holding a gun to his head....you just want to know that you're not waiting around for nothing. Perhaps give him an ultimatum: Set a date, or you'll have to assume that he doesn't want to get married.

Good luck...

Mr. Fix It is right. Blame the divorce lawyers that have been screwing men over for the last 50 years when a marriage ends.

When you break up with your girlfriend it's simple...just say 'See ya!'

When a marriage breaks up all of a sudden the guy loses more than half his money and property and 99% of the time he is kicked out of his own house so she can stay there.

Why take that chance? Women LOVE the idea of getting married and why not - if it works out then great for you and if not then it's try to grab the cash time and the courts favor the woman.

Mr fix it has fixed this one, Im a guy and relationships work best if its 50/50, when you get divorced (which, unfortunately, is likely) solicitors and the system screws the guy and favours the woman. He may work for years to buy a house which he will lose when you divorce. Guys, never get married!

Marriage is a total screwing for men in our society.

You want to get married?

Offer to pay for half the ring, half the wedding, half the down payment on a house, and be willing to pay half the bills and be willing to sign a prenup that includes a stipulation that any mandated "child support" order will be matched by an equal payment back (you cannot legally negate child-support, it's mandated by the state so you have to add another contract to compensate for it.)

If you are not willing (or not able) to do that then you're a gold digger, plain and simple.

Otherwise you are asking him to spend his fortune on you and then give you half of what is left-over and in the event of divorce (which /you/ have a 70% likelihood of filing) he gets to pay you mother support, another 25% - 40% of his check for a few decades.

All for the privilege of allowing you to drop your good graces and removing any reason for you to remain actively engaged in the relationship.

You want to live happily ever after?

Don't get married.

I did this after 3 yrs you need to make him decide to shittt or get off the pot. Now your in 5 yrs.....soon you'll be in 10 yrs. So unhappily you gave him the milk and the cow.

I'm sure he loves you but he will drag his feet for years if allowed to. Because he can.

Good idea on planning the children in your life. (two thumbs up)

There's always the possibility that he is going to ask you to marry him but wants it to be a surprise

I say he's afraid of commitment. he talks, yet no action. He might just not be ready. give him a while longer. He may just want the proposal to be special.

He may be scared of being "tied down" marriage makes it FINAL that means no more nothing except you. men get scared that you may change after i do