Why does it make me so angry that my husband doesn't set his alarm or even ask me to wake him up from a nap?

What do you not like the job title Human alarm on top of Cleaner,cook.shopper,wardrobe consultant, driver,mother,babysitter,carer,washerwoman,interior decorator and exhausted fool. I am surprised you have the energy to even try to feel angry. You should set the kids on him and sleep yourself you deserve to.

Just let him sleep through his appointments and responsibilities. If he gets angry at you, reply calmly, "I'm not your mother, and it is not my job to get you up on time for school like I do for our children. If you have to wake up to be somewhere, that's your responsibility because you are a grown up."

And if he misses out on family things because he was sleeping, then fine! Go have fun without him, and tell him later what he missed. Let it be his choice that he misses out on life because he slept through it. Trust me, I've used both techniques on my husband over the years, and while he's still a lazy butt at times, he's gotten much better about setting the alarm!

I don't know what YOUR problem is. Me and my girlfreind both enjoy napping. Is it so hard to wake him up if he's been napping to long? I mean comon, all you have to do is say "wake up" fairly loudly. Is your day so full of "responsibility" that you can't spare a few seconds for that? There was a study done that found that people who enjoy mid day naps live years longer then people who don't nap.

He's just living life as his biology is telling him to. Your the one who's stressed out all the time. And you know why? Because your the type of person who always thinks that theres stuff to do. Constantly. I bet you rarely stop to nap, or take a quiet walk, or look up at the sky. You'd rather be constantly worried about "responsibilities" then enjoying life. You only get one, you should learn to enjoy it. I say you should learn from your husband. Calm down and take life a little bit slower.

i had a similiar situation like yours. I would work 12 hours meduim physical work in the summer heat in back of a warehouse all day long and I remember I would get angry at my housewife in that she would never wake up at 5 am in the morning to make me breakfast or lunch. I would always have to get her up from sleep just for her to try to make me breakfast and she would complain to me she was very sleepy. Sometimes I would go to work without breakfast and a pack of homemade lunch. My wife is a super lazy house wife. Its very hard to get movitated to go to work every single day when you wife does not make any energy food for me to keep me going all day long at work. I also would come home dead tired and exhausted from work in the evenings just to see no supper on the table. Damn I would get pissed off deep inside. So much for a housewife in general. That was about 7 years ago. My wife was exactly like your husband. Very careless, unorganized and super lazy. Now if I get mad at my wife she calms me down with some soothing hot sex in bed, so I no longer get pissed at her anymore. I just got used to her lazy ways. That's all.

Now that you mention this. The wife sometimes takes good care of the husband as if she was his mother and the husband takes good care of his wife as if he was her father at one time. Its not perfect but its pretty damn close.

Stop waking him up, you say you are not his mother, than stop acting like one.

I'm serious. Let him miss a few things. It'll be his own fault. Tell him in a calm voice that you are tired of nagging, so you are letting him know now that you will no longer do it. Then stick to it.

Maybe it's because he is behaving like an 80 y/o woman. What kind of guy cant stay awake for 18 hours at a time.

Boy... that's just a little controlling, don't you think? Unless there is some specific responsibility he's shirking, why does anyone need an alarm clock to nap?

If he really is sleeping all day, there is something else wrong. People only sleep that much when they are exhausted, have poor sleeping habits, or are depressed.

The beauty of a nap is that it just comes upon you.If he move just to set the alarm it will disturb his nap!

No idea why it makes you so angry, because you don't seem to be saying that he isn't keeping up with his part of responsibilities, or that he gets angry at you for not waking him up.

It makes you angry because you are a Type A with control issues.