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Jaz
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Jaz asked in HealthMental Health · 1 decade ago

Is this a sign of childhood sexual abuse or some other mental affliction?

What could be possible explanations/diagnosis for this?

There is someone important to me, a woman of around 38-39 years old that displays promiscuous behavior, and has been for as long as I can remember (since at least 18 years old, but could be longer, don't know). She puts up suggestive pictures on the internet, sends dirty pics via e-mail & phone, and seems to be addicted to men's attention.

I recently found out something that leads me to believe it is more complex than just simply being promiscuous. Once when her daughter was a baby, a man that was having intimate relations with her saw her writing in a notebook one night. He managed to get a hold of it, & discovered she was keeping a log of all the men she had sex with that week. When the man confronted her about a certain individual on the list (it was a friend of his) she denied it, and swore on her baby daughter's life that she did not. He then pulled out the notebook & she was speechless. Documenting things like this seems to indicate a mental problem.

Also note, she is very secretive about these kinds of affairs, she puts off an image that she is a simple woman raising her kids that does not have a social life at all. She always says how she is "so nice". She would sware up and down (and on her children apparently) that she would never do such a thing.

Another note, she is not unnattractive, at least with the general consensus. I've never heard/seen anyone who didn't think she was pretty/hot/sexy/etc.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I wouldn't necessarily say that she had been sexually abused as a child or she has a mental illness. Maybe it is just very low self esteem. There are quite a few women out there who for whatever reason equate sex with either love or acceptance. Maybe she never felt loved as a child and this is her outlet. Maybe being able to get all of these men into her bed makes her feel beautiful and wanted. It's really hard to get in to someones head and figure out why they do the things the do. Just be her friend and be there for her. It sounds like she really needs some positive influences in her life and you could be that person.

  • 1 decade ago

    What does being attractive have to with it? You do know pretty much every woman can get at least a few men to sleep with her, right? No matter how she looks.

    Actually sounds pretty responsible that she's keeping up with it (whom she's been with and when). Not healthy to sleep around that much, though

    It's possible there's some sexual abuse from her past, but it could just be a need for attention and a need to feel loved/needed, perhaps she didn't have a good father figure?

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