I'm torn and need some advice?

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I have a dear friend, in another state, that dabbles in art.  He has for years, he knows he's not good enough to make a living with any of his artwork, but he enjoys it.  I have known him for over 20 years. We are both happily married, with raised children.  He has also mentioned over the years that he would like to sketch me nude.  Recently he has been asking more often, sending me example poses of nude models, as well some of his sketches.  My question is.  Should I send him some photos of me so that he can do the sketch that he wants or not?  I've never liked my body and he tells me that my self image is not what comes out on the paper.  I'm not sure how I feel.  I trust him to keep the photos to himself, but I'm still torn.  He has given me his wives contact info so I can contact her to make sure she doesn't have a problem with me sending photos of me nude.
Should I do it or not?

Jay · Accepted Answer

You said your friend is married ,then let him do nudes of his own wife. Why does he need you for that . It sounds fishy to me and if I were you I would not do it .
I am a male artist and there are barriers you just don't cross. I photographed my buddies wife once But she was in a bikini and they were done in good taste.
So my answer would be don't do it.
For your own protection.Also listen to the other answers, they agree not to do it.

Finnegan · Answer

You did not say whether or not you asked your husband, or whether he knows about your friend and his sketching. Given this omission, it is hard not to wonder if there may be some other motive behind this interest in your friend's artistic abilities, or his interest in wanting to see you nude. Given the wide array of images available on the internet, if all your friend needs is practice, I'm sure there is a plethora of various models and positions from which to choose. If there is some desire on your part to want to be drawn in the nude, then I should think it would behoove your friend to get his chops up before he attempts a rendering of you so as to best capture your image. In my humble opinion, I think there is a boundary that this crosses, and it appears unseemly.

Justine · Answer

To be brutally honest, No! Given the facts that you're both married with children, regardless of your trust for this guy. And as a female myself, I'm confident his wife is feeling awkward about her husband getting nude shots of you, just for the sake of his art. I'll tell you this from experience: money is NOT worth selling pictures of your body, which should be only for your spouse's eyes. Trust me, this can only lead to a lifetime headache of people who want to see the real deal, and possible stalkers. My friend is doing nude modeling and as much as I disprove of it, it's her choice. So think over this extremely carefully, and just be sure both parties have no complaints about it. Not to mention the results of selling the photos.

cobra · Answer

No, he has tried so hard to make it sound legit that it just can't be. Sorry to be so cynical, but anyone can get nude images and real life models anywhere. Do not even think about sending him nude photos of yourself, it is both inappropriate and just not necessary.

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