am i being dramatic about this situation for HATING him?! please help?!?

my mom was prett much a single parent i had alot of different stepdads and i only ever liked one of them, everytime i got a new one, it was like moving out of one house into another, and none of them were mine, it is freaking horrible for someone like that to be invading you space as he does, its just sickening, being only a month after your dad died, when my mom died, and the stepdad i had at that time was being a jerk(completly changed when my mom died) i hated him he was dating my moms friend within a month as well, i was outa there long b4 that, HATE HIM, mouth him off and tell him to scram, you can do the yard work, ect. you dont need a tard like that around. he probley is scarde of you because he has a guilty concous, exploite it, he deserves it

It's completely understandable that you would be upset. And a man who would cheat on his disabled wife does not deserve your respect (however, you shoudl still treat him with common courtesy).

However, the person you are really mad at is your mom - you just don't want to face that anger because she is the only parent you have left. You feel she is dishonoring your dad's memory, and you may be suspicious that this "friendliness" started even before your dad's death.

You are 20, and therefore an adult, so you need to talk with your mom as a rational adult, not an angry child. Tell her that you witnessed the kissing and are aware of their physical relationship. Remind her that you two are family, and should always be honest with each other, even if it is difficult. Suggest that you both go into therapy to help deal with your shared grief in a constructive way (rather than getting angry or rushing into an affair with a married man). Your mom is making a mistake, but you need to respect the fact that she is grieving too. Adults don't always handle things the right way - you have to help each other figure it out.

No you have every right to be angry adn upset because it looks like he is trying to take your father's place but he isn't...but on the other hand you have to let your mom make her decisions and respect them as you would want the same, so ot answer your question you are not being over dramatic because you feel he is taking ur place but just remember to respect you mom's choice.

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can't say you are

As situations go, this is dramatic.

And the "friend" is clearly immature.

Although do keep in mind, now that you are 20, these affairs are of your mother's responsibility now.

i understand your situation. your mom and you need to move on at some point. maybe she's just lonely and needs a man around. im sure its strange but its your moms decision. wait and see where it goes. hell never replace your dad and your mom knows it