ADOPTEES What was your feeling and/or reaction when you first met your bio parents?

Disappointment.

Much like Janessa describes. Relief followed by confusion, anger and now, indifference. It's hard to stay angry at someone who is such a lost soul but churning out 7 of us along the way could have, should have put her on a different path. It was not closure by any means.

I know my birth dad now, but have yet to meet him. However, when I met my birth mom for the first time, I was in a restaurant at our planned reunion. The lobby of the restaurant was packed!! I saw her, recognizing her from her pictures, and RACED across the lobby, parting the crowd like parting the red sea. I screamed "BETSY!!!!!!!!" I was filled with tears, especially when I had to go home.

I was in MASSIVE tears when i first talked to my birth dad. I couldn't believe it was real. I kept thinking and saying to myself "I'm the happiest girl in the ENTIRE world!!!" I still can't help but burst into tears when I talk to him. I can honestly say I love both of them and their families with all my heart.

But I must add in here, I also love my family (the one who adopted me) with all my heart, also. I wouldn't have had the amazing life I got without them. I owe everything to them.

It was surreal. It was definitely a watershed moment. As much as I would like to say it was all about getting to know my mother, it was really much more about getting to know myself. I can't really explain the feeling associated with not knowing how you're connected to the rest of humanity, but meeting my mother was initially more about making an attachment to the universe than getting to know just her. It took awhile for the magnitude of it all to wear off and really get to know her as individual. It was the first time in my life that I met someone who reminded me of me. It took some adjustment.

it is outstanding you in no way had a "gaping hollow" as you defined it. heavily. you're quite fortunate. How do you realize your bio mom hasn't substitute right into a miles better guy or woman because of the fact that she gave beginning to you? i would not think of you of anybody might choose her by employing her myspace pondering you place up %. of you and your tattoo on a yahoo solutions profile. What grants the final to choose her by employing that as quickly as you're imperfect your self? i do no longer in all danger understand why you're so unfavourable and serious of those people who're voicing our under valuable comments of adoption. Oh wait, honestly I know it thoroughly. i became into plenty such as you as quickly as I first started right here at Y!A on the adoption talk board. I generalized beginning dad and mom as crack whores and abandoners and actual believed the full "real dad and mom" crap and that it became into impossible to love your adoptive dad and mom and hate the equipment and additionally sense soreness from being surrendered. whilst different adoptees have been making me disenchanted by employing talking their truths, I went on the shielding and published questions asking why they have been so bitter. After questioning approximately it, i found out they afflicted me plenty because of the fact I too felt that yet became into afraid to admit it. you haven't any longer something to lose by employing establishing your self as much as listening to what different individuals might desire to declare. you haven't any longer something to lose by employing dropping the recommendations-set and the condescending way you generalize organic and organic dad and mom. Open your eyes and be taught something! you could purely stand to income a miles better awareness of your self. it quite is fantastic if it is not person-friendly for you presently. you're youthful.

At first, it was relief. I always wanted to meet her. After getting to know her and realized the fantasy I had imagined was just that, a fantasy. She was a drug addict. She no longer smokes crack but is now addicted to pills. I can't believe I came from her womb. I don't understand her, I guess I kind of look like her. I don't know. I've met all of my bio siblings, and only have a true bond with two of them (she had 8 kids altogether). She gave her first born up for adoption, then had a girl, then 3 boys then me, gave me away, then had my twin sisters 11 months later (they were in foster care from 11-18).

I feel indifferent towards her now. I'm civil when I absolutely have to see her, but I avoid her at all costs. The man she says is my father may or may not be my father. She's just a woman who happens to share my genetics, that's it. I already have a mom and a dad, sisters and a brother. Building a connection with them just never happened. It's awkward when I'm around them.

I'm more curious about the feelings the parents felt when the their child basically discounted them to mere "adoptive" parents. I find this whole reunion thing amazingly disrespectful.

I know I know... thumbs down.

fwiw: I never met my mother, but I know of her. Much like Janessa's story. I feel nothing. Even if she did try to contact me now or 20 years from now, I just wouldn't allow it.

I've never met them and I don't want to. My father walked out on me and my mother was a loser. If I ever did meet them, I would punch my father and call my mother a dumb whore. I hate them for what they did.

Bittersweet.

The paradox of feeling like you're supposed to belong and yet in so many ways, you don't. These people were my parents, yet they weren't. It didn't make a lot of sense.

Absolute total overwhelming joy. Finally there was someone, other than my daughter, who looked like me and to a certain extent talked and thought like me. That was closely followed by relief at knowing that my siblings and my first mums husband knew about me, and always had.......it was nice to know that I hadn't been kept as some dirty secret.