Was he wrong to do that?

N-No. No. You are not overreacting.

There are nice men who are single fathers, who work hard, and who had girlfriends who screwed them over.

Then there are deadbeats.

You have a deadbeat. You will not fix him. The sex is not worth it. Whatever he says, he says because you're the only thing in his life that ins't crap. That is not a sweet or nice thing. He is using you and he is not appreciating you in the least. OR your family.

Dump him. Dump him. Dump him.

You are making up excuses. Stop being stupid.

Never date a man like this again.

Not enough details really.

First off he's the parent, not your parents. What was the toy? If it was something he believed is a wrongful toy for whatever reasons its within his complete right to try and raise his kid how he see's fit.

For instance I'm a father with a 2 year old and a new born. My 2 year old I have a rule so far no toy guns or knives, any relative gives him any they vanish and go to the trash and I may even be vocal about it. If my wife ever have a girl we'll also be avoiding anything that promotes the "perfect princess" attitude as I call it such as princess outfits and such, also possibly no barbies but realistic dolls may be fine. These are my beliefs as a parent and how I will try and bring my kids up. Its my choice as a parent.

Now with that in mind maybe talk to him why he threw the toy away. Maybe he has his own reasons and even if you disagree with its his choice. However if he did it for stupid reason such as "I hate your parents" or a spiteful reason that may not have been right.

Anyways talk to him on why he did and remember he's the parent.

Oh girl, my heart goes out to you. What your bf did was rude and disrespectful not only to your parents, but to you too. And having raised two step-children, I know how hard it is to step-parent. But a 4-year-old is too young to be treating you, or anyone else, rudely. This is the time in her life when she should be taught good manners - I'm betting she's copying her mom and dad's behavior (that's what kids do at that age). And the fact that bf is unemployed... none of this is good. We've ALL had hard lives to a point, that doesn't make any excuses for disrespecting the people we love. Honestly, if I was you, I'd get up the guts to move on. Sometimes you have to change the life you planned, in order to find the life you were meant to live.

Yes, that was a very rude thing for him to do. It could have been he was having a bad day, but that should be no excuse. Also, the fact that you are making excuses for him seems to me that you are putting more effort into the relationship than he is. If he didn't care about the toy your parents bought his daughter, what else in your relationship doesn't he care about?

I wouldn't expend much more time and energy into this relationship if I were you, but that's just my opinion.

You're not over reacting!! I'd hit the roof if that was me!!!

Tell him exactly what you think, yes, he might be having a hard time but that is in no way your fault. He has to treat you better or you should go.

If the little one is rude to you make sure he deals with it straight away. I do with my bf. If she's rude (5yrs) then she is told off and told to apologise. Plus if she asks me to do something when she's been rude I say no, you were rude to me and she sits down and talks to me.

It's a really difficult position. Tell him how hard it is for you. It's his child, it's about a million times harder for you to just be thrown into it without him making it harder

talk to him

Good luck!x

It was wrong of him to do that. And I think you can do better. If his ex is still in the picture then there must be something going on between the two of them. I'm sorry if this doesn't make things better but you need to put things in order. By that I mean what is more important your happiness or his? I can understand if you don't want to hurt him but you need to make him see that what he is doing is wrong and leave him.

In any relationship, you have to pick your battles. Yes, it was rude for him to say that. You need to decide whether that comment was the straw that broke the camel's back or something you can live with. You deserve to be happy no matter what, be it with your current boyfriend, alone, or with someone else. Good luck!!

It sounds like you don't need all of that drama. If he loves you he will tell his ex to not treat you that way. I suggest an ultimatum tell him get a job, tell your ex to calm down (or you can just avoid her) or you are going to leave him and find someone with less drama. You should also tell him that he's very fortunate to even have a gf considering his lifestyle.

I think you should directly tell all this to your bf. Rather than jumping to conclusions directly. Clear out things with him and if still you feel he is not being proper then its better to end it right here.