Husband is drinking too much?

Liken it to something he doesnt want you doing. He cant just do whatever he wants all the time. Marriage is a perpetual compromise.

If he doesn't watch his consumption, he'll also be "included in the group" of alcoholics!!! This statement is coming from a 20 yr. sober alcoholic! It doesn't take much to "cross over that line" of drinking too much into becoming an alcoholic. THIS would be my main concern. He could just as well drink a glass of coke or any other soda of some kind & no one would know the difference. I can & do go out & socialize, BUT there is NO one & NOTHING that could make me pick up an alcoholic drink. No one has liked me any less, not said a word about what I'm drinking or not drinking, I still have a good time regardless. If he becomes an alcoholic, he could then loose many of those "friends" if he turned into a mean drinker. Tell him if you didn't love him you wouldn't care, but you do & are concerned. If you have to be a drinker to "fit in" then there's a big problem with the ones he's hanging around with. You can inform him that a drink is NOT going to make him any more popular than if he didn't. And again, IF he's hanging around with a drinking crowd, he's hanging around with the wrong people. You either like a person for who they are or you don't like them at all. It has nothing to do with the glass or bottle you have in your hand, it's the person holding it...I DO wish you the best...:)

It is tough being married in the military, when your spouse wants to still be one of the boys. You go into combat, and you need that camaraderie that gets built up by hanging out together.

Questions. Does his drinking make him a mean person? Does his drinking affect his sex life? Does his drinking affect his work ethics? Does his drinking make you jealous, because you are "stuck" at home whilst he has a good time?

Hopefully it is just a phase, but the more you dwell on it, the more it will become a problem between the two of you.

Unless you're a drunk too you don't want to be married to a drunk. You're in a difficult situation. I suggest going to Al anon which is for the relatives of drunks. They kindly refer to them as "alcoholics". Whatever you or he call his drinking it is a problem for you and may be a problem for him. Your husband saying, he needs to "socialize" with his friends is just another excuse to drink. A drunk will always have a reason to drink. They drink when they're happy and they drink when they're sad. They drink when they're high and they drink when they're low. Doesn't matter when or where. Drunks are, above all, selfish brute beasts who think of no one but themselves.

Ask him to see a marriage counselor with you because if telling him to get off the sauce is too difficult, this has more to do with your ability to communicate than his finding himself at the bottom of a bottle.

booze is anhearentent and integrell part of our services,, some grow out of it other sbecome drunkaholics for the rest of their lives, as with any drug, it takes control and thier world is totally different from others, just as a cigerereete is adicive and you know what happens when you try to get some one o fa cancer stick,, good luck,,

omg no get a real man! Im not saying that in a bad way but there are plenty of Americans out there

less problems!

good luck it seems like drinking and the military go hand in hand