My friend is dating someone with HERPES. What does he need to know?

In my opinion it is totally not worth the risk to him. He can wear all the condoms he wants but it will only protect the skin it covers and during sex there is usually more contact than that and her cvnt juices can carry the virus down to him. some other facts:

The infected partner doesnt always know when an outbreak is about to occur

Herpes can be spread even when no outbreak is visible (much less likely but it can happen)

He can get herpes from her and not know it - meaning not all people who carry the virus ever have an outbreak

really unless he is going to wait until marriage to have sex with her he should probably go find himself a clean girlfriend

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No one volunteers for Herpes!

It is as much chance as it is circumstance as the infected person is not in control of the outbreak nor the infected site so they can not be charged with stopping the spread of the infection. There is no "Magic" bullet to be fired that will do away with the risk to him by contact, even with kissing so unless this is strictly a 100% platonic relationship, he is at risk and the infected person can not assure him that he will not become infected.

Kudos to the girl/guy. She/he is a person of integrity. She could have just not revealed anything until she could determine where this was going but seriously, all encounters should be treated with the seriousness required here. More than likely, she is extending to your friend what was not extended to her, the right to chose. Respect that.

The sites are for people with herpes but understanding the viral transmission can be applied to people w/o herpes. It only takes time to read it and comprehend what the impact will be to you. Take the time. Your health is worth it and the infected person will appreciate not being stymied with ignorance when talking about it. The worse possible scenario is to reduce the potential relationship to unfounded fear.

Go back to those sites and read with compassion and empathy!

Be a friend, indeed.

If he is sexually active with his partner then they need to use protection. However, even if he uses protection there is still a chance of getting herpes but that's all he can do.

He needs to talk to her about it. They can have sex, he just has to wear a condom and she has to be sure she is isn't having or about to have an outbreak. She probably takes medicine that suppresses outbreaks the majority if not all the time. If they follow the rules, the chances for him to get it are very slim.

Not to have sex with her.