How can I control my anger?

To me it sounds like there is something in your past that is troubling you. It would be helpful, perhaps, to find out what - why you're being triggered now by your boyfriend's actions. I recommend counseling. Also try a quiet time in the morning - perhaps ten minutes - where you simply sit quietly and meditate. Don't make it a big thing - just sit and breathe. No right or wrong here, but take some time to pull back and be with yourself. As someone who struggles with her own anger, I promise you it helps. Good luck dear.

I am a real angry person, but Cannabis is my DOC and that keeps me cool, calm, and relaxed. Also watch other people when they get extremely angry, its embarrassing, if you can imagine yourself when you are getting angry, or imagine what you are gunna think about what you are doing that night falling asleep you can correct it pretty quick. No matter what is pissing you off its never worth getting angry over once you think about it for five minutes. What is getting angry going to do but perpetuate you being angry. You never see an angry person get progressively happier. Sounds like I am saying stop being angry by stop being angry, and I kind of am, but it really is that simple.

- Take a third person perspective.

- Try to view the situation as if it has already happened, and think about how embarrassing it feels, or looks to others (you see someone yelling in their car, road raging, it makes you laugh, what are they so mad at, don't they know they are gunna get there soon, why don't they relax and enjoy they aren't in a wreck right now, or dead if they are in a wreck)

- Try to forget what is angering you, it can't be the most important thing in the world (being happy is)

- Smoke, it will make all of these things much easier, and make mundane. boring, useless, even angering things more fun

Once we fully accept other people as they are without the slightest judgment or reservation – as all the enlightened beings accept us – then there is no basis for problems in our relations with others. Problems do not exist outside our mind, so when we stop seeing other people as problems they stop being problems. The person who is a problem to a non-accepting mind does not exist in the calm, clear space of patient acceptance.

Patient acceptance not only helps us, it also helps those with whom we are patient. Being accepted feels very different to being judged. When someone feels judged they automatically become tight and defensive, but when they feel accepted they can relax, and this allows their good qualities to come to the surface. Patience always solves our inner problems, but often it solves problems between people as well.

The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You can't get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you change them, but you can learn to control your reactions. If we practice the patience of voluntarily accepting suffering, we can maintain a peaceful mind even when experiencing suffering and pain. If we maintain this peaceful and positive state of mind through the force of mindfulness, unhappy minds will have no opportunity to arise. On the other hand, if we allow ourselves to dwell on unhappy thoughts there will be no way for us to prevent anger from arising.

For many people anger is a disruptive force that controlling can be very difficult. It helps to know that there are a a number of herbal and homeopathic ingredients which have been shown to greatly help with the control and management of anger outbursts, fits, and rage. Nux vom. is one such ingredient and it is commonly recommended to people who are prone to irritability, and anger and those with impatient tempers.

Another useful homeopathic ingredient is Chamomilla which is particularly effective when the emotional reaction seems out of proportion to the situation or event. This ingredient is wonderfully calming and can be used to soothe anger and irritability as well as any underlying anxiety . Lastly, Lycopodium can be used to address uncontrollable anger outbursts and is especially useful for those who find it difficult to express their emotions.

You may get more info here http://www.healthherbsandnutrition.com/remedies/a/...

My anger controls me.

Try to relax, take a few deep breaths if you start to feel any anger, or hit a pillow? don't get mad at me if this doesn't help :P

You may have a chemical imbalance in the brain. But, exercise does work with stress... maybe you should try it out.

Well for one it might help to find something of possible authentic interest to you, and pursue it.