advice on this extreme situation please?

huuuuuh report him--------------------and your ex may be annoyed i wouldn't worry about it though and neither should you you need to get your feelings out some kinda way that is somewhat important to your over-all health, your emotional health is important in your over-all well-being.

Hello, Smulan!

There's a number of issues that seem to be involved with this question. I am unclear as to whether you are dating your boss or not.

Both from personal experience and general advice, it's not a good idea to date your supervisor. Not only does it violate Human Resource policies, it creates a very awkward working situation. If you are NOT dating him, then his behavior is completely out of line.

My advice as it pertains to your boss:

If you have not done so already, I would suggest telling him that you do not appreciate his behavior and tell him to stop AND I would do it in writing - such as an e-mail message. If he cops an attitude, tell him this is not a request. If he does not stop his behavior, let him know you will report him to HR. If that still doesn't stop him, report him to HR. If you lose your job because of it, you have a nice, juicy law suit on your hands and any lawyer would pick the case up happily. BUT remember to have it in writing AND if you ended up visiting HR to report him, I would also follow up with an e-mail message, recapping the conversation you had with HR so you can have that on record as well. The lawyers will want to see proof that you attempted to stop the behavior AND the dated e-mails will place your efforts PRIOR to getting fired/laid off. This is worse-case scenario, of course.

As for your ex, I'm curious as to why your ex is the only one you can talk with about your daily problems. Do you not have any other friends? Why is he an ex? He may be an ex because of a communication breakdown. There are personality types that typically are attracted to each other that start out great, but frequently break down in the relationship just because they don't understand their personality type. I can help with that and improve your communications that might change him from and ex back to a healthy relationship. This is not about control, it's about finding out a) is he the right person for you and b) how to effectively communicate and interact in a way that allows you both to be yourselves and let the relationship thrive!

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first of all it seems like ur definately missing your ex and care so much about HIS feelings which i think is a bit odd. and also for your boss. THAT IS SOOO INAPPROPRIATe on his part to be doin and sayin those things to you.

you should take him aside and say, "listen, i have been feelin a bit uncomfortable with how you address me in the past couple of ____ and i think it is very unprofessional. so if you could perhaps change how you act towards me and if not i can find another place to work" or maybe speak it more professionally and not so harsh. but u defo need that talk with him cuz thats soo wrong.

What you described is the defination of sexual harrassment. Go to his boss and tell them what is going on.