How does grandma fit in?

start looking at nursing homes, ask her what she thinks of this one and that one, maybe not so nice ones or something, and be like, "Oh, but it seems like you would be great there!"(like, not atr appearing sarcastic or anything), and just try to do that, and if she asks why you want to get her out, say that your family doesn't appreciate someone who doesn't act like a family member and participate in family events in your household. ALSO, make sure you're inviting her to these family events! Don't just expect her to show up. Say, "Molly has a soccer game tomorrow at four thirty, would you like to come and watch and support her?" If that's not really her style, say something like, "We're all going to go out to the arcade and eat dinner, would you like to come?" or even just say, "Hi, do you want to come watch some TV with us? We can watch whatever you'd like for a while," and then follow through. Once her favorite show is over, have a conversation with her. Learn about her favorite foods, etc. Maybe take her out to do some of these things with the family?