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should I tell my father now or later?
well basically I'm gonna be moving out in like 3 months my mom knows and she's real understanding she doesn't like it but she's giving me advice and how to make it easier BUT my father.....doesnt know he has a real bad temper and when he's mad he won't listen AT ALL so I was wondering should I tell him now and deal with him(which is gonna be horrible argueing) or move out wait a few days so he can cool off and then come back to him and talk to him about why and stuff? and I do respect him very very much it's just when he's mad there's no talking to him i'm just wondering what to do and yes I am over the age of 18 I am 19 i've done research on how much it'll cost I got a room mate(my good friend since before time) and I got my own car, job and stuff I'm just waiting 3 months to gather money just in case something comes up when I move out I'll have money to fall on so I am ready but what should I do about my father?
yes I understand BUT you missed something when he gets mad HE DOESN"T LISTEN WHATSOEVER the second I say moving out his ears turn off and he yells hell no and leaves i've brought the idea by him before I aint scared of him I just don't want a yelling match cause it's pointless thats why I"m not sure if I tell him now then the whole 3 months he'll try to stop me and I tell him afterwards then he'll have to face facts that i'm outta the house ya know???
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- Joe KLv 61 decade agoFavorite Answer
I am not even going to bring up respecting him. This is about him respecting YOU. You are becoming a man, and you should act like one. Tell him now, and let him know that at some point you have to go out there and live your life. If he has any respect for you, he'll understand.
You sound like you got your ducks in a row and if you tell him about all the research and work you already have put in, he should have no problems with it. But how can you expect him to treat you like a man, if you don't act like one? Be honest with him from the start. That way if he does get upset, you can counter with you being man enough to telling him up front, instead of slinking off... and that that should at least be worth something.
*Edit* I still say tell him now. You are wanting to move out and be a man, start by telling him now rather then later. He needs to come to terms with this fact of life, that kids grow up and move out.
CyberNara
- 1 decade ago
Yes, tell him now therefore when the day comes to move out, he can help you & stuff. He will understand that he knew that was gonna happen. Your dad would be more mad if he knew your mom knew about it all along & didnt tell him.
