i want to stop being a prude?

Question

so, i'm 18. i liked this guy. we started going on dates. he asked me to be his girlfriend about a week ago. we've hung out a lot since then.

and here's my problem: i can't kiss him.

i want to, but every time i get out of his car, and he goes for it, i hop out and say, "i had a good time! goodnight!" and walk into my house, and then get frustrated with myself.

he's spoken to me about it, and i told him that i like to take things slow. which is a total lie.

i'm old enough to make my own decisions, and i wouldn't mind going further with him once we've been dating for a while...but i cannot seem to kiss him.

i've not had much experience with kissing, but it's pretty basic: lips meet and that's that. i want so badly to get over this so i can show him how i feel! how do i stop being a prude?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Honestly, I think you just need to relax! I mean if you like this guy ,which it sounds like you do then kissing him really shouldn't be a problem. You should feel comfortable doing it to show how you feel. But, at the same time it doesn't matter who you are or how much experiance you have, if you put the kind of pressure on yourself that you are right now..your never going to feel comfortable kissing him. Just wait for the right moment, it doesn't have to be right when you get out of the car like your describing it. If you don't plan it and just wait for a perfectly romantic moment when it feels right, you won't feel that pressure and nervousness you are feeling right now. And, if all else fails just one day when he's not expecting it go for it! Once you do it once you might find you feel very comfortable doing it,and it could take your relationship to a new level!  but remember, what your feeling is normal! if you didn't feel nervous like this then it wouldnt be real feelings..the nervousness,jitters,and butterflies are all normal feelings in the start of relationshipss:) good luck!

Donna · Answer

Be yourself. Stop worrying about what other people think. Maybe it's not that you're a prude rather than they don't have the same tastes as you do. Some people are easy to please. And at 13, it's easy to get involved and into trouble that you'll regret a lot in a few short years. Think. We all make mistakes and often at your age, those mistakes take a life of their own. Think about where you want to be when you graduate HS or college. Then act accordingly.

Casey · Answer

You're just nervous!  Make a bet with him over it that you will not want to lose, so you'll feel compelled to kiss him.  At first, it may be awkward, but once you get the feel for each other, it comes naturally.

Nikki · Answer

I am truly the same way and I have no idea why.  Just dont think about it and kiss him.  The only way I got over it though was my boyfriend kissed me when I wasnt paying attention and after that I was fine. Good luck!

Stop dreaming. Start being. · Answer

Start by kissing his cheeks, and just move slowly towards his lips.  You're just nervous, don't worry.

Funny Boo · Answer

ur not a prude... ur just scared....stop freezing up 

dont be a chicken.

Anonymous · Answer

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