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Do you think I should leave him?
I was looking through the history on our computer and found out that my boyfriend's ex wife's MySpace page had been visited recently. At the beginning of our relationship, about a year ago, we had an argument over him sending her a message telling her he loved and missed her. After much denial, I hacked into his account and saw the message myself. He insisted he just missed having a significant other, waking up next to someone, having a family (he has a son), and our relationship was so new... blah, blah, blah. Now he's insisting he hasn't seen her MySpace page in ages when the history indicated the latest visit was just a few days ago. I know for a fact that she doesn't want to be with him. She is recently engaged and expecting a child. She's very much in love with her new partner. So, my concern is not that he is cheating, my concern is him being obsessed with her or still in love with her. I don't want to be with someone who is secretly desiring to be with someone else. He insists he loves me and has been through some really rough patches with me but, this whole situation bothers me. What do you think?
If he wants to know about his child, he can call her. Also, why lie? Why not say that you were checking on your son?
4 Answers
- Truth HurtsLv 51 decade agoFavorite Answer
So, he visited her page? So what? They have a child together. Maybe he was just checking up on that child or seeing if there was anything new going on with it that he didn't know about. You are being very unreasonable. If they have a child together, you can't keep her out of his life.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
I'm really sorry you are in this situation, but maybe you guys should go on a break. Oddly I am friends with someone who is going through a very simaliar situation. You have to look at why they broke up? His choice or hers? Do you think that he may always have feelings for her but he went with you b/c he liked you, but you will always be on the back burner? These are some things to consider. It sounds like he still wants to be with her, and he may love you but do you want him to love only you, or you and another girl? Honestly if I was with a guy and he sent a girl a message like that I would have left him immediately. You have to be careful and look out for yourself. You also don't want to spend your whole relationship wondering what he is doing. It is not a good relationship when you are insecure and you want to check up on him. Think about your future with him, not just what's current.
Source(s): Experience. - 1 decade ago
I know you probably don't want to hear this but I'm gonna say you should leave him. I understand that losing connections with people who used to be very close is hard for him, but he should be committed to you and only you now. Another problem with him is his honesty. He's failed to be honest with you a number of times and I hate to break it to you but those are the things that you've foun out about. He might be hiding a lot more. You deserve a man who can be truthful and dedicated to you and you alone, an if he's not meeting up to those standards then there's somebody else out there that can:)
- MaybabyLv 41 decade ago
I would leave him, he obviously is looking at her page and is probably thinking about her more now that she is engaged to someone else and pregnant. It does not sound like he is over her and there are plenty of fish in the sea, not all of them have baggage!