She won't leave me alone!?

Hi - the poor woman has fallen in love with you!

So what if you're a single guy in his late 40's, who thinks he's better beating off in solitude rather than getting involved with a real woman - you can change, you know!

I'm sorry you had a bad time when you were young, by the way. I don't know HOW bad and that's none of my business.

The lady in question has seen something in you that you've not allowed your self to see, ever. She thinks you're fantastic. Be human and be flattered by this, not puzzled.

She's not after your money, she's not shallow enough to want you for your looks - she just simply thinks you're lovely.

How about telling her that you have some insecurity issues and that you find it very difficult to draw close to people. She could be the one to gently call out the confident, happy studmuffin in you - you won't know unless you at least give it a try.

And the relying on porn thing isn't much of an issue; you're not alone with that, and the transition from celluloid to real flesh and blood shouldn't be too problematic. The fast-fire ejaculation 'problem' is also easily solvable, with the right woman.

So, stop seeing her as a threatening sexual dominatrix who is going to belittle you, humiliate you and deride you, and start seeing her as just a warm, uncomplicated human being who just happens to really, really like you.

Wish you luck.

hi there,

firstly I understand the whole not wanting someone to be you thing, I was abused by my husband and push men away because of it. I do think though that this lady you have met understands you and cares deeply for you and that is why she stays around. The fact that she puts up with your attitude to her should show you that she is serious and genuinly very nice.

When you ask what she wants from you and what you can offer her, maybe you should concider what you could gain from being together, company, intimacy, love, friendship, support. Whatever the reasons are I think that ladies like her are few and far apart and if you are not willing to give her the time to prove to you that you can love and be loved then instead of rejecting her emails and cancelling her arrangements with you, maybe you could be adult and sit down with her and explain that this is not what you want and you are happy to be alone.

Fact is that she has given you time to freak out and still come back to you afterwards, that should show you something. You say you are in your 40's now, it is not too late to put your trust into her and give it a go... what is the worst that could happen?? well I guess she could leave you but you like being alone anyway, she could very well be the one to save you. Like I said before if you don't want a relationship with this lady you should be honest and tell her so.

Take a risk! Life is short. So you're scared, had a bad childhood, are afraid of getting hurt, afraid of experiencing pain or drama. Isn't everyone!? But what a boring, sad, sad, sad life to go through it guarded, alone and pushing people away to "protect" yourself. I'd rather feel uncomfortable, risk being hurt... hell, even possibly end up hurt, rather than feel NOTHING and be alone. At least you'll have a memory of a time when you had someone who cared about you, and who knows.... maybe this woman is just right for you and will be patient and loving toward you. Of course you need to make an effort to be good to her as well. Can't just expect to act however you please and have people take it. You have to stretch beyond your comfort zone, risk rejection a bit, be kind and thoughtful... even vulnerable... and LIVE A LITTLE BIT. What else are you doing here??? At 70 years old, looking back on your life what kind of life do you want to look back on? You need to think about this... and then force yourself to GROW.

How sweet, you sound like you were meant to be or at least you and she were meant to take the risk on one another. You sound as if you want her to give you the attention, could she be seeing that in you and perhaps realize you have been hurt so she slows it down, backs off long enough but not too long so as you think she has lost interest?

Mark, your in your 40's and see this is the whole point of growing up, the need for game playing is over at least for women who mature far faster than men do. She is so simple , she sees what you do not see. Or she is willing to take the risk of what she thinks she sees in you.

She sounds like she's very sweet and understanding. Do you really want to get rid of her or is it that you've gotten into a routine and are weary of entering a new relationship?

If you want her to leave you alone, tell her you're not ready for a relationship, and failing that, you can issue an injunction against her in the courts to stop her from pestering and harrassing you.

Oh Mark can you not see she is interested in you !!!

Give her and you a chance you wont know untill you try it ?

You need to spend less time watching porn

And have a real woman for a change

Ask her out and see how it goes

What are you frightened of ???

Dont be a jerk

I am in the same situation as that woman. This guy I was talking to has been completely ignoring me. It does not feel good. Just be REAL with her & treat ppl how YOU would like to be treated.

She must sense the good in you. You can chose to stay alone, or try this out. You might shock yourself to realize the worst critic of you IS YOU.

Lol yeah I laughed so hard. And then I saw Seth Greene one hahah omg.

Her self esteem has to be shot. If she has been ignored constantly, I would have to believe that something seriously is wrong with her. She may have a mental condition. I would never speak to her again if I were you. Eventually, she will give up.