How to do I deal with this?

The first thing you need to decide is whether you want to raise this baby as a couple or whether you will do it as a single parent. Obviously how your boyfriend feels will play a major part in this decision as well.

If you decide to raise the baby as a couple, I would suggest that as a couple you meet with each side of the family. Tell them what has happened, what your plans are, and how you expect them to behave. Explain to them that if they want to be a part of this baby's life, they will need to be a positive influence and a positive support for the baby and you two as a couple. If you approach this calmly, maturely and with very little drama, hopefully they will do the same. If not, you need to make a choice as to how much or how little these people will be involved in your baby's life.

I would recommend that if you and your boyfriend get back together, that you seek some sort of relationship counseling, either through your church or a local professional. You need to make sure that your relationship is a strong enough foundation to withstand the storms that will surely rock it to its core. Raising a baby is difficult enough, but within a family in turmoil, it can be nearly impossible. You owe it to your baby, to build that foundation strong and firm.

Good luck to you and congratulations. Your life will never be the same with that beautiful little heart beating in your womb. <3

What I told both my family and my baby's father's family is if they cannot get along and put their differences aside they will not be able to see the baby, and if they really care they will all grow up. Needless to say, my family grew up and was like lets start with a clean slate and everyone but my son's father's mother wasn't, but that is her loss.

In situations like this you need to lay down the law and not let what they do or say affect you. If they end up causing a lot of b.s and stress you need to be the one to get your self out of it, because the stress isn't good for you or the baby. I'm sure that they will all learn to get along because a baby (usually) brings families closer together.

Congrats and Good Luck!

Unfortunately you can't control what others say around your child as much as you'd like to. You can however, express to them that if you catch them saying negative things about the other family in front of your kid you will restrict the visiting to include you as chaperone. All that matters if you and your child. If he doesn't come around to the fact you want to obviously keep the baby, you take him for child support. That simple. As to the rest of the family on each side and their views, they really don't matter. It's your child not theirs, you raise the baby, not them. Then they can't tell you how to do it, what to do, etc. My mom is 12+ hours away and still tries to tell me what to do, I let it in one ear, act like I heard her, and let it out the other ear. Then I talk to the only other person who matters- hubby. You and him created this unborn life, you and him will parent either together or you'll do it on your own. Best of luck. Be strong.