i don't feel at home . . . at home?

Home has so many meanings.

If your house itself is not feeling like a home you need to address what you have done with the decorating. Color choices play a huge impact on our emotions. Many times we try to go for a "look" only to find it's not what we want - but it looks good and we spent alot on making that look happen. In the end you are surrounded by "things".

Many times it's the community where we don't have that same sense of well being.

Or it could be the relationship with your significant other that isn't "quite right".

Sometimes moving to a place and starting over will give you a better sense of "home". Learning from your decorating choices in the past lets you start with a clean easel.

In the meantime ...there are things that can help you feel more at home. Really look into the person you are and have become. If music is your passion wire the house for music. Make a corner in the house your "you" corner. A place to read or think or contemplate the world. It can be a bathroom or a random place in the house that is your quiet place. Small and all you. Decorate it with what ever makes you feel good even if it doesn't match.

You can fill your house full of material "things" but I wonder if this will really help? I've been feeling the same in the last week (and we've lived here over 10 years) every things been great, but our daughter (who I do love) has moved back home from Uni for the final time and ever since, my wife & I have been constantly arguing , regardless of who's in the wrong our daughter will always side with her, our son had moved back in a year ago and always stayed out of the very few disputes knowing we'd make up after a couple of hours. Now they drag on as the girls bond and I'm left to feel a stranger in my own home.

I will have to bring this up and reclaim my feeling of being at home after a day at work and I suggest you do the same. Is it more psychological than physical, has something happened in your household or surrounding area that had an adverse effect on you?

Just a thought!

I am wondering it you live alone? Are you happy with your life in General. Our home is an important place it is where we can be ourselves and feel safe. Is there anything you could do to make you feel more at home? Maybe you could make it more cosy but photos around the place put things around that mean something to you. If you feel lonely why not think about adopting an elderly cat from a rescue centre she/he would be there for you at the end of the day. Invite a friend home for a drink. When things are not right in our lives sometimes we need to change things , we have to make the most of what we have. I have felt at times 'not at home' as i have moved quite alot you just have to try and make the most of your home. Maybe if you gave a little more information it would be helpful. Good luck anyway.

Yep. I have lived away from home for nearly 20 years now and still some days hanker after my childhood home. I miss the area I grew up in, but due to work commitments it isn't possible for me to move back there. Whenever I visit the town, it feels like home. The family have all moved away now, but I would still move back if I could. I live in a perfectly nice house and although I have spent the last few years doing it up, it doesn't feel like a proper home. I guess it is wanting to go back to those carefree childhood days rather than dealing with all of the problems today. I miss my childhood innocence.

Really think why you are having this feeling is it because your house isn't homely or is it because you just have never loved your house?

Obviously with the second option you could look for a new house to move to if you feel it necessary and with the second you can do little things to make your house homely.

- Fill your sofa, chairs beds with blankets and lots of cushions.

- Make sure your house is nice and warm.

- Candles for relaxation,

- Paint your walls warm colours (Oranges and yellows)

- Make sure your house is nice clean and tidy. But don't be obsessive about it. Some clutter is fine!

-Have a collection of your favourite DVD's so you can watch them whenever.

-Fluffy carpets.

-Comfortable. When you sit and lie on the sofa is it comfortable? If not then get a new sofa or add cushions and blankets as said before.

- Make sure you have the correct lighting. If it's too bright then it is, 1. Going to give you a headache! and 2. It just isn't very nice. In my room I had a really horrible bright light I hated it, it gave me a headache and I never used to want to go in my bedroom. As soon as I changed it I never came out!

-Also try and get the most natural sunlight as you can. Cutting a tree outside your window can really make all the difference.

-Finally to make your home homely you must love it. How can you make your house so you love it and really look forward to going home.

I really hoped I helped.

Rosie

xx

Move to a new place. I used to have the same feeling and really just wanted to get out, and after not long felt more at home in the new place than I ever had at home, and now when I go back, I miss the new place more than I ever missed home.

This happened to me when we moved here 4 years ago. I still do not feel at home. Even with all my furniture and things that should make a house a home I am still missing that special feeling of belonging in my new house. I am hoping it will pass. Perhaps it is because you are not happy there.

You may be missing where you have lived before, or you don't feel like your house is your own. Try putting comforting reminders of where you used to live around the house - pictures, decorations, ect. You may also want to invite some old friends over to try and make it seem more like your home.

I can relate a little, I ve not felt at home in this world since 2004, although there was a period from 2009-2012 where it got close.

How about a fresh coat of paint on your walls? Rearrange the furniture, put some fresh decorations up, and clean up the clutter.