When is enough enough?

Love is irrational. life and relationships are not. On one side, you have the fantasy of love, and it may be deeply felt. On the other hand, you are faced with the reality of a child, who, to be honest, either doesn't like you, resents you, or could just be a brat. There are many who are.

So your choices are few, two only, as I see it, you either work on the child, get her to love or at least like you, and accept the fact, she has her issues with you. If the child is happy with you, so will the father.

It also seems, he isn't or won't reciprocate your feelings of love, at that's how you feel about him.

Who knows why, it could be, your relationship with his child, if you don't like her, he senses that, and his child comes first, and most likely always will.

You want a one one relationship, but this isn't what you are in, it's more of a family situation, with him and his daughter.

So either accept the fact, that you are involved with two people and love them both, or just leave and move on, and find some single man to fall for.l

It will take work on your part, to make your little group a family, but as it seems now, with the child's resentment and his non reciprocation of your love as you see it, it's not really a good reality.

So either work with her and him, see if you can chang the dynamic, and after a while, it's still going nowhere, then it's time to move on.

Altho you don't say how old his daughter is, I can see how that would cause friction in the relationship. Trying to have a romance with a child in the picture is not easy! And as you have discovered, the child necessarily comes first. It must be difficult for your boyfriend too, so if I were you I'd try asking him (assuming you haven't already) what can you do differently to deal with the daughter. If you have honestly tried everything and nothing has worked or changed then it may very well be time for you to move on.

Well since he has a kid, he probably wouldn't spend that much time dating a woman he isn't serious about. And since he's got a kid, he's too busy dealing with her to pay enough attention to you. He's a parent and you aren't. If she was your kid too, there would be more of a strain, but it'd at least be equal since you both would have equal investment in the child and each other. Does that make sense? But as it stands, you have more time on your hands than he does, so you're more likely to feel lonely and like he's too busy for you. Which he may be, but I don't think that should exactly speak for his feelings about you.

If you don't complain about his kid and have more patience for her, and spend more time with her, he'll probably appreciate you more and see you in a better light.

It's enough when you start asking yourself if it's enough. Seriously its not going to get any easier.