Bridal shower gift etiquette?

Why people are expected to pony up for weddings twice, I don't know... but I see nothing wrong with giving a nice gift from the registry at the shower and then a nice card with a gift-card or cash in it at the wedding if that's what you want to do. People usually have a place to put cards and gifts at the wedding reception, so you don't need to do it all at the shower if you don't want to.

How much is appropriate? Whatever you can spare without causing yourself hardship. For me, just having my guests show up on my big day was enough gift for me!

-Scarlet

You are correct - two gifts are appropriate for the two separate events.

Gift from registry is great for shower.

Money is also fine for wedding.

I think your amounts are perfectly appropriate. And as someone else said, gifts are ALWAYS voluntary.

P.S. I apologize for giving unsolicited advice but I suggest that you do not give CASH (give a check or money order) and DO NOT take it to the actual ceremony. Mail or hand deliver it in advance or after the wedding. It is sad, but weddings have become targets for thieves - especially envelopes. In addition, wedding days are very busy and stressful. Someone has to watch and transport all the "loot" that is brought to the ceremony. It is much easier for the wedding party if gifts/money are sent before or after the ceremony. Gifts are "on time" if they are sent within six months of the wedding date.

Hope you enjoy the celebrations! :-)

Although it's common to bring a cash (check) gift to the wedding, etiquette dictates that you send wedding gifts to the bride's address in advance of the actual ceremony. You may also send a gift up to six months after the ceremony. But actually giving the gift at the ceremony forces someone -- the bride, groom or a member of the family -- to deal with it then and there, which is awkward. Let them enjoy the day and send your gift to the house.

that was a very generous engagement gift you gave them. i would personally not spend that much on the shower gift. i always give about a 30 dollar gift for the shower and more for the wedding. i consider the shower gift to be just from me and the wedding gift is from me and my husband. i always try to go off the registry unless for some reason i can not find out where they are registered. then i try my best to figure out what the couple likes. personally i think mailing a gift is a pain. putting all the presents in my car after the wedding was not that hard and people did not have to spend the extra cash on shipping.

You got it right - give her the bridal shower registry gift at the shower and then give her money at the wedding. That's more than appropriate.

There's no incorrect way to do it, because gifts are always voluntary. You can do a shower gift and a wedding gift if you like.