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i need space etc.. but i like you..wth?

Long story!I met this guy on the web like 2-3 yrs. ago when one of my friends joined a site and I finally joined it too to be her friend..I added this guy let us call him A as my friend and A and I found out that we had myspace so we added each other to myspace..A and I chatted on the site where we met,we talked abt stuff,I was in a relationship,no I was not cheating on my bf or anything..A and I befriended,I went to school in a different city or town than he did and we never met..My bf at the time knew since him and I were in a serious relationship so I was always honest with him.A told me about his life,how he grew up in Colorado,his parents; divorce,his siblings,etc and I told him somewhat of my life.All in all we got to know each other even though we never met face to face and somehow after a while it seemed like we knew the other person for ever!So we tried to meet up but he had some problems with his family so he had to go to Colorado where his father and part of his siblings still live,another time his sister and her children made us call the whole thing off...Him, a couple of his friends which turns out that were my friends too and my now ex's were going to hang out and play pool..Anyways we then became busy him with work,me working on my BA,we changed out #'s,we texted somewhat when we found out the new #'s...Then work and school and so forth kept us busy again..We added each other to Y!Messenger so we chatted a lot via that more than the cell...Anyways my ex of 4 yrs and I broke up in June of last yr.,1 yr. to date due to mutual understanding that we shifted in different directions him with working on his MS and me on finishing my BA and wanting to work at a private school.

After my recent break up in Feb. A and I chatted more and more,he was filled in my life and vice versa,etc...Recently as school came to a close we chatted via Y!mess even when he was driving he used y!mess for his cell and me onmy laptop, while he was at work,etc...For the past week when I called him he ignored my calls,ignored my Y! messenger mess. and I thought that I said something wrong..I left him 4 voicemails,he wrote me back a couple of short Y!mess on how his cell is dead or something like that which after a while it became apparent that he did not want to talk to me..On fb which he was a friend with me and vice versa he wrote me how he hopes I have not forgotten abt him 1 week ago or so..I wrote him back telling him how I have not...

I finally called him and asked him if he was okay since I have not heard from him etc and he said but was working which I know he works sometimes late at night and said that he would call me in 30 minutes.I said "Sure" and he asked me if I did not believe him.I told him I believe him but was a bit skeptical.I waited for 2 hrs for him to call and still no phone call.The next day I wrote one message on fb and one on Y!Mess saying how rude it was what he did...After that I did not call him or try to get a hold of him...After that the ignoring part continued,he wrote one or two Y!mess. back saying how his cell is dead and another one how he is at a party with his mom and would get a hold of me..

I finally wrote him yesterday saying that I am walking away from all this and so forth.When I logged into Y!Mess and Yahho! Mail I found some Offline Mess. and some were from A...I got confused by his message and what he meant so I copied and pasted his message below...

I'm sorryi really do like you and I am going through alot right now. I don't want to hurt you or make the wrong impression. I would love to grow and become great friends and possible more. But at this time in my life I am emotionalygoing through more than I lament. I just need a little time. Idont expect you to wait for me. I hope our lifes will intersect though but 6:57 PM -that was what he sent me yesterday

I was confused by his words and what he meant..Today on Y!mess he was on and we chatted for 10 min tops..I left him a message to which he responded saying that if what he said the other day in his message he meant it he would show it b/c actions speak more than words do...He was taken back and then said that he was sorry for wasting my time to which I had assure him that he did not..I had to remind him that he made me laugh and smile and how we had so much in common which we did..Seriously we had so much in common:music,art,etc..So after that I asked him if he likes me as a person from everything he knows abt me and he said yes otherwise would he talk with me..With all the given info what is going on? Some friends said that he is walking away,some that he is dealing with difficult personal problems while others that he is not that into me...Any takes?

I also assured him that I would wait for him...

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  • Alicia
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago
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    If he has some difficult stuff in his life to deal with right now, and if you care about him, be there for him and don't add to his problems by making a big deal of his not having emotional space for you. If you need someone to fill a space in your life, he can't do that at the moment. So find someone else... The more you try to cling, the more you will push him out of your life.

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