I feel like I'm selfish...or just numb. I don't know...?

Hey Aly. I'm really really sorry to here that little Min Min died. Melody told me she was sick. She was such a little goofball. When my dogs died, (actually the same way as your cat) I didn't cry either. It kind of felt like they just went on a long vacation and were eventually going to be back. I would say I was numb. It never really hit me, until a couple years passed and I looked at pictures of them. You're not selfish, you just express your emotions in a different way. You bottle them up, and there is really nothing you can do about it. In time, you're feelings will show. Just mourn any way you can right now, and eventually, probably when you're alone, you'll tear up.

Kris- everyone is different in dealing with the loss of someone or something they care about, and whether you cry or (not shed tears), you're already crying in your heart for this cat, so let yourself feel the pain of the loss and your tears will follow, and Kris you're not selfish about your feelings you're quite normal, and as far as your age is concerned enjoy your teenage years, for whatever reason the Lord needed your friend(cat) in heaven with Him, and He knew the kidney failure is very serious and that you nor your sister could go thru anymore grief of the cat being so sick,and the pet is no longer in pain,Kris when you least expect it, you'll see something that belonged to the cat(something she/he used to play with, and you'll cry all over again, you can't be attached to a pet for the length of time you were with this cat, and not continue to remember, but just remember good things, like what it looked as a kitten, how it purred, but remove from your mind what it may have looked like before its death,God is beside you and your sister in your time of grief,He'll never leave you, maybe sometime down the line there may be another pet,just enjoy them. May God Bless You and your sister in this your time of sorrow.Please convey to your sister and yourself my [I'm sorry'.s]

You are experiencing the feelings of loss and/or grief. Grieving an animal or a person--is a process. Every person reacts differently to grief. For some people--its crying and really releasing all of that emotions and loss. And then for others, it may just be 'nothing'. Also please, know that you can not put a time limit on grief.

If you feel you need to talk to someone, please know that the Boys Town National Hotline 1-800-448-3000 is available 24/7 and we talk to kids/teens and parents all the time about various issues. We do want to help you -- and it may help to share your feelings with one of our counselors. Take care and when you get the chance, let us know how you are doing....Counselor KJ

All my life i've had dogs, been there since i was born and its awful when they die. it hurts so much because you feel such a special bond with them and no other pet is the same.

they all have different personalities and silly things that they do =]

and it really hurts at firts but it'll get a lot better. abd you will laguh at all the silly and naughty things they did.

the last dog we had that died was so sudde. just came home and he couldnt walk and was so incapable of anything

so we took him to the vets to be put down, it was the kindest thing to do

but seeing him take his last breathes and stare at me was awful

i felt so cruel and horrid

but i look back now and realise what an amazing life that dog had and how i'd caused that.

dont worry, everything gets better =] x

I'm not a cat person, so I cant really see how someone cries over a cat. yall must have had some good times...

grief is always devastating,

whether is a friend, a family member or even a beloved pet.

There is nothing that helps but time, im sorry.