Is this normal, or Post Partum Depression?

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I have a 4 month old daughter (1st child).  I started back to my full time job at 6 weeks and she attends daycare.  I love her very much and very involved in her life.  After birth my body didn't change too much and went back almost prepregnancy.  But unlike before I want nothing to do with sex with my husband!  I hate this!  I'm ready for bed by around 8pm and no desire for sex at all, and when we do (which isn't often) I'm ready for it to be over.  I love him and emotionally I'm fine with him..I just physically don't want to do anything.  It's driving my husband crazy!!  I read somewhere to just do it even if you don't want to, I'm not too thrilled with that advice, faking the entire act is almost like lying and I don't feel comfortable with that.  Any suggestions please?

Anonymous · Answer

This is totally normal! Don't beat yourself up. I have two kids and another on the way. After both of my daughters were born, I felt the same way. You are a new mom. You are TIRED and you have new priorities in life. Your husband loves you and will understand. If things don't go back to normal in a few months, you could try seeking help from a therapist. Best of luck to you and congrats on the baby girl!

Lauren O · Answer

Its very normal, don't worry things will turn around again once your daughter gets a little older.  Give yourself a pat on the back for being a new mom who provides for and loves her baby very much.  My 1st child, baby girl is 9 months old now and things used to be that way for me too but have been picking up more interest lately.

jigfam · Answer

Don't be too hard on yourself - it's totally normal.  You have a new baby plus working full-time so it's no wonder that you are so tired.  Why don't you pick one night a week to go on a date with your husband?  Find a babysitter for your baby and romance your husband.  Good luck.

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Is this normal, or Post Partum Depression?

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