Boyfriend vs. his best friend?!?

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I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and I believe we're in love. He's 18 and I'm 16. Recently one of his best friends (who is also 18) added me on Facebook and we've been talking A LOT. He's very friendly and we talk about twice a day, normally for more than two hours. Lately I've been feeling this strong urge to talk to him. As the day goes on I'll be wishing he'd get on, just so we could talk. I still love my boyfriend without a doubt and I text him all day long. Am I feeling this urge to talk to his best friend because he's someone new to talk to? This has happened to me before(I meet someone new and get very excited on making a new friend and wish to get to know them quickly) but I've been noticing that his messages tend to get a little flirty. Am I just excited for a new friend or am I starting to develop a slight crush and subconsciously enjoying his flirtations? I suppose I should add that I do find him attractive.

Michelle · Accepted Answer

I would take a little time for yourself to sit back and think about if you're interested in being more than friends with this guy.  I think just about everyone develops some kind of crush while they're in a relationship, as it's not really in human nature to remain monogamous to one person... (That being said, many people CAN stay true to one person)
Is something lacking in your current relationship?  Is your boyfriend making you as happy and fulfilled as you should be?  Do you "believe" you're in love or is it something you're 100% certain about?
After a year, you should KNOW.  
I'll also mention that I know sometimes if a relationship has lasted such a long time, it's often hard to let go because you feel like you've "come too far" etc... If you're not happy and you put a lot of thought into it, it's ok to end it.  Life's too short to not keep yourself 100% happy.

If, however, nothing in your relationship is lacking and you're as happy as you want to be, I'd suggest lessening up on talking to his friend.  He should NOT be flirting with you under any circumstances and if he continues to do so, call him out on it and tell him its NOT acceptable.  What would your boyfriend think?

trixi b · Answer

It seems like you are developing a crush on him but be careful it doesn't get back to your boyfriend, afterall he is your boyfriend best friend. Keep some distance if you want to keep your boyfriend.

waltzing matilda · Answer

You are enjoying it cause it is somebody new and who wouldn't want to be flirted with. To be flirted with is flattering. 

As this dude is your bf's best friend i recommend you cool it so they don't get into a fight. It's up to you though. Like you don't have to stop talking to him, but just not as much!

Anonymous · Answer

well make sure nothing happens like you liking him, you can never get bros to hate on each other because of a girl, if that happens it is the girls fault, happened to me last year, my bestfriend knew i liked this girl and decided to just be there anyways and she ended up liking him more than me and they did things and i was so mad and were not close anymore and i tend to get mad at him easily and uneasy when he talks to her

readaholic girl (LOL) · Answer

you probably are just crushing on him cause hes something new. he might be crushing on you for the same reason. i think you love your boyfriend but lust your boyfriends friend. your boyfriends friend is suited to be your best friend but not boyfriend. 
but its truly your choice and what you think about it.

Anonymous · Answer

you shouldn't be trying for a relationship right now with no one ,, you are to young and to flirty ,,, you're not in love with no one

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