Opinion plz: Would it be reasonable for a spouse to refuse a separation or divorce ...?

I thank the honourable member for Macesse for raising that question. As is well and truly advertised, my party is dedicated to an absolute policy that the person who wishes to break up a marital relationship is the one who goes out in the world and leaves home and family behind. Under no circumstances does that person take home and family with him/her, since the home and family were set up, not for the benefit of that person, but of the family.

Therefore, the legal nicety becomes:- If one person wishes a divorce, and the other does not - how do we determine who gets the house and kids? This issue is covered in the principle that, before the Unfamily Court, only the person who wishes to state to that court that they wish to leave will be shown the door. If both say they are not the one who wishes to leave, there is no case, and both are sent back home.

Simple. In the case you cite, it is obvious that one side wishes the divorce, and that side has already shown that they have no wish to be a proper part of the marital/family/home relationship - so - throw the baggage out!

Now that is the kind of hostile environment that every kid should be raised in until they reach the age of majority. You sure are teaching them some great skills AND giving them some emotional/psychological issues to boot! Way to go. You get parent of the year!

Now, start putting the kids best interests ahead of your own interests or need to be punitive with your spouse!

EDIT: Are you freakin kidding me? The ONLY hostility is from the unfaithful spouse? Oh. I get it. So then it would only really matter if it was coming from the faithful one then. That is some real good logical thinking there I'd say. Get some counseling ok?! GEEZUS!

You can't hold a person a prisoner in a marriage. The unfaithful one simply has to move out.

I do believe that we don't consider the harm divorce does do to children sufficiently. And I do believe that a marriage is a legal contract which is broken when one commits infidelity. And that the adulterer gets away with the damage they cause without so much as a single criticism. They swan away off to a new life, leaving a lot of damage in their wake.

But that is life. You don't have to stay if you have found someone else. It's what many people do.

Well, unless divorce law where you live is really different from Texas divorce law, if one party wants a divorce, the other party can't stop it. And rather than unreasonable, I'd say that she is trying to hang onto her lifestyle and keep the cheating SOB from dumping the total responsibility of the kids on her. She should just get a good lawyer and take him for everything she can.

I think it is not reasonable for any person to try and refuse the other spouse of a divorce. If they do not want to be with you, why try and force them by refusing? They are not going to start loving you again or stop cheating.

Why? To keep the kids happy? Yes. But if a kid can handle the divorce, let them go. I think it's still a nice gesture to keep supporting kids, but not until 18. They are supposed to support them until education is completed, whenever that might be, after university or vocational school, apprenticeship. I dislike it when people think 18 is the way to go just because the law says so.

I would find it unreasonbable for both parties. Why should any spouse suffer through a loveless marriage? For the kids? Please. Enough of that hogwash. Plenty of kids grow up to be better of b/c of a divorce in that type of sitution. Both can move on.

If they can move ahead from it, if the man or woman are in no immediate danger because of spousal abuse and they can find common ground I think it could be possible.

It really isn't for anyone else to judge though, that is something the family have to decide on their terms within their own relationship. I don't think it's unreasonable, it does depend on the whole story like how many people she/he cheated on his/her partner with. But ultimately it's up to the two of them and no-one else.

it depends on whether or not the couple are causing upset and arguing going on. the children will not grow up stable in this kind of enviorment.