how do I fix my marriage?

by ending it.

I know how you are feeling. I feel the same way.

First, I wanna say that you may be accusing him of wrong doing because you feel guilty about seeing your ex. Just remember that. I am not a sales person or anything like that. I work at a bank, but I recently downloaded " Hidden Keys to Loving Relationships" By Gary Smalley. It is a seminar. the sessions are about 30 minutes long. I have yet to get my husband to listen with me, but it is really good and he focuses on communication and relationships between a wife and husband as well as their children. I copied and pasted this out of my web browser. This is the site I downloaded it from: http://thepiratebay.org/ Just look it up under Audio. If you do not have Utorrent, you should download that to get the file. All of this is free and so far it has helped me communicate better and with the little tidbits I have been telling my husband, has helped him a bit too.

I know it is really difficult to trust people over the internet, especially when it comes to downloading stuff. So, I ma sure you can find it on ebay or something else like that.

(PS if you are going to use Pirate Bay, make sure you download the one with the most seeds and make sure to read the comments beforehand. They will tell you if it is legit or not. Some jerks try to give you viruses.)

I wish you the very best

You need to decide for yourself if you want to remain married or not. That should be your decision. It's not right for anyone to help make that decision with you. After you decide what you wanna do, then you can try to figure out how to fix your marriage or be apart. Whatever it is you choose to do.

I have no idea how to stop being lonely. Except for the fact if your husband was to start being a big part of your life. Which he should be doing anyway. And there isn't any easy answer as to have you have your husband to talk to you and spend time with you. He has to want to do that by himself. If he doesn't want to then I don't think you can help him with that. you could try very hard to let him know how important it is that the two of you talk and do stuff together as a couple should. Keep talking to him until you either get it through his head or you give up.

Sorry i don't have a better answer for you. Good Luck. Ask God to help you. (Smile)

This is a tough one. My ex-girlfriend was friends with 3 or 4 of her ex-boyfriends while me and her were dating. It bothered me sometimes because she was very close with one of them. You talking to your ex shouldn't be such a big deal as long as your husband trusts you.

But the bigger issue that I see is the fact that he isn't meeting your needs. Effort needs to be put in by both partners in order for it to work. Therapy is something that many people shy away from but its perfectly normal for couples to go through therapy together to figure out how to save their relationship. Somehow you need to improve communication with your husband but if he continues to show a lack in effort then he is failing as a husband.

One tip I would also recommend might sound a littly corny but it is always worth a shot. Think about this: why did you fall in love with him in the first place? Where was your first kiss with him? Try to re-create these emotions or take a trip together to a place that brings back these memories. I know most couples do this for anniversaries but it might help provide a spark between you and your husband.

Good luck :)

My feeling is that nothing short of couples counseling will save your marriage, and if God were a part of your marriage that would really help. Sometimes a man and a woman have to accept the differences in each other. Is it really the end of the world if he doesn't want to join you in other activities on a regular basis? Don't you have girlfriends you could pal around with for variety and let him watch the kids occasionally. A counselor could help open communication.

Fixed marriages final longer than love marriages considering that in societies in which you may have constant marriage divorce is customarily thoroughly out of the query or stored for rather severe circumstances. In many circumstances constant marriage is extra of a industry or a deal than what we name "marriage" in our society. Sometimes love comes later and routinely now not, however the deal is customarily now not supposed to be damaged. I in my view opt for love marriage with all its hazards.

You are going to single handedly bring your marriage down. Go get some martial counseling. You need it if you even want to bother trying to repair your relationship.

Hammer,nails,duck tape and lots of blue tack.. followed by 4 months of marriage councilng