Is this harrassment and can we get in trouble for this.?

And some folks will be calling this a troll question.

The first person to be sued will be your manager for "ageism" in allowing you jerks half her age to screw around while she does all the work. And I'm using the language she will use in her claim. She doesn't have to prove who is behind the pranks, tho she would be more able to do that than you realize. The fact that she is taking notes means that she DOES fully expect to bring a claim against the company for bullying behavior. Whether a hearing officer or the courts agree with her is a side issue to the likelihood of your manager being fired or re-assigned. Your new manager will then expect work from you and fire anyone who thinks the old behavior can be the new behavior. I'm going out on a limb here in playing prophet, but I really am only telling you the most likely result. How about you turn state's evidence and save your own hide? When I was in the state prison, they made very clear that the one who self-confessed got a penalty but remained employed. The ones they had to go after--especially the ones who lied--were fired without mercy.

company sued. What kind of juvenile delinquents work at your company? She'll be able to win an age discrimination lawsuit, especially if she finds this board, which I hope she does,

If the woman doesn't want to do the things you do outside of work, respect her wishes and grow up. Perhaps she is an alcoholic and knows going in a bar could be fatal. Perhaps she has children, or a loved one at home that needs her care after work.

You 20 somethings seriously need to grow up; life isn't all about playing around, as the 40 something obviously knows.

In these types of situations, you can get yourself into alot of trouble, professionally and financially.

You will find these things WILL happen , if shemakes a harassement claim against you..........

When it goes to court, the people u work with , and are in your group. Will turn against each other. The people u thought (had your back) in effect look after themselves, simply because they have their own families to think about.

If you are the tormentor and or a part tormentor. This woman can take u to court personally. When she wins, the court will award her compensation, which u will have to pay , as well as her legal fees.

It might be fun and games now for you. Your all probably having a laugh. Make no mistake about this.........If and when she does take u to court. You will only have yourself to blame and neither u or your "friends" in the company will stick up for each other.

Because as i said, they will protect themselves , as their families are more important than you .

She doesn't want to hang with you after work, so what. Maybe she has better things to do that are a higher priority. That doesn't make her a kill joy, just a responsible person.

As for the notes, they can be traced back to the originators.

I hope you all get what you deserve.

Some people keep their work and social lives separate. And from what you wrote here, I would do the same thing if I were her.

it could be considered work place hostility - so yes, she could get people in trouble. It doesn't matter if it is her word against yours, there could still be trouble brewing. Just make sure you are professional at work and keep your personal life seperate. She's expressed that she doesn't want to partake in the out of office activities, so leave it at that.

Could be that she has other responsibilities, or that she's twice your age and sees herself as more mature and thinks that you all have nothing in common. If you really want her to get involved, make a point to find out where her interests lay and see if you might share some of those, or try to focus one of your get togethers towards a non-drinking atmosphere to see if she'll join in.

You all sound like a bunch of bullies and quite frankly I would not pee on the lot of you if you were on fire. She may have her reasons for not wanting to hang out with your bunch. The things you are writing to us that you are doing just confirms her good judgement. Pick on someone your own size. If you really want to act the big shot, tell your new boss that you are taking him and his family to a nice jewish restaurant this friday evening. The more I think about it, that's a great idea. That will be real "bonding"

she sounds like a bit of a party pooper, i would just continue to stay clear form her and not play any pranks on her at all, let her be if she doesnt want to have fun, but yes this can be classed as harassment as just about everything is these days. I told a joke from family guy in the office and got into trouble, i want repeat which one it is lol.

good luck

I worked at the same place for 25 years. then Retired. This subject was always one of my pet peeve's. In the 70's and early 80' My company had a young work force. And it was a fun place to be.Many nights after work there were Huge poker Games, we had Beer in our Soda Machine. with an after five Button. So no one had to go out to get it. We had Party's once a month to celebrate High Earnings. Liquor flowed like water at these events. we took the car keys away from our boss more than once at these function's The thing was everyone was expected to be there. it was a quiet pressure "You Going to be here RIGHT?" I lived an Hour away from work at five I was ready to get the Heck out of dodge. So I would stay an hour and sneak out. I never understood why they forced you to be social. I worked with a lady much like the one you descried. and yes they can get you in trouble. In the 80's some one sent a male striper to our office for a girls 21st Birthday. He performed in the Lunch room and those who wanted to watch did. (Mind you it was down to a G- String. No big deal to me. it was funny.The lady in question who said she could get drunk just from the fumes of alcohol was not amused. She called the home office. and complained In A huge voice. need less to say that was the beginning of the end at work for any fun. she got smoking banned from the building. (Even though it was in one lounge) She got rid of the After five drinks in the machine. and everyone stayed away from her. If she dose not want to attend your get together let her go her own way. some people live to work. others work to live. The more you mix her in, the more she can report and IM sure she is taking notes. every job has one of these people.you would not force someone to come to a block party on there street if they did not want to attend. It should be the same way at work. let her go home, and you guys go party if you want. it will make it more pleasant for all concerned. ( And as Crazy as it sounds I worked for a fortune 250 company) Every thing as changed so much in the work place now.But Much stays ther same.

Maybe she doesn't hang out with you all because she has other responsibilities. Like kids, a husband, another job ext... Maybe money is tight for her, or maybe she feels uncomfortable being so much your senior. There could be dozens of innocent reasons and you should really think twice before you intentionally try making her life harder.

And yes, that is something you could get into trouble for. It is harassment.

well for starters she probobly has a reason to not drink or go for a hooka, second she probobly doesn't wanna hang out with people half her age and pulling pranks will get you or your buisness introuble BIG TIME if she is the ONLY GIRL then well you might as well as pack your things PR would mislable it as gender harrasment thus giving reason to take to court.