I CAN NOT STOP EATING TO SAVE MY LIFE?

Oh my gosh doll..i really feel for you!

That sounds so stressful alright; i can relate to some of it

i think that great drive for food can be caused by a low serotonin neurotransmitter in the body. This can happen because of prolonged stress or just the emotional pain you experience at home.

I've always struggled with my weight too and i found doing the Carb Addict Diet principles helpful; just trying to loosely follow the principles really helped keep my appetite in check. (even though i didn't follow them perfectly). They still helped to combat the excessive appetite.

Or if that doesn't suit you; try to include protein at each meal and keep the GI low; like sugar swings can do crazy things to your mood also. Look up a low-sugar diet or one for hypoglycemia.

Don't over-exercise either as this can make your increase your appetite too; i recommend just gentle exercise like 30 mins - hour walk or whatever you enjoy and thats uplifting like maybe a dance dvd/class. You've not much weight on you so don't worry/think your huge-your not!! it probably just because your feeling so down right now that you feel this way!

In general diet is the most important factor when it comes to weight loss.

Try to find out things that make you happy, everything possible and do these things.

Most of all; i know its hard but try not to listen to the stress thats coming at you from your Mom.

Usually we hurt others out of our own insecurities. Take charge and control of your life at every possible turn; believe me this will make all the difference in the world. When you feel on top of the important issues in your life; you'll be able to cope with relationship problems easier.

Try to find another means of travel to work so you don't have to be tardy. Its not good for you to have to rely on something that you know will let you down; its too stressful and makes things too unmanageable.

Really try to do a trouble-shooting session and spend more time thinking up possible solutions than focusing on all the problems. You will find a good plan of action-pray to God too; he will definitely help you.

If you know there are certain 'issues' that tend to drive your Mom crazy...take charge of this too...and ask her nicely to write out a list of 'chores' she would like you do achieve each day If you know them already-try to do them, just to have an easier life. This may help you have a more structured schedule also instead of just sleeping.

Just try to get those issues out in a calm manner so that she stops thinking of you as a small child she needs to 'come after'. Be as mature and poised as possible-i know it must be really hard.

Be your own best friend and advocate and don't internalize or believe all those negative messages you get from your parents/ elsewhere. Believe in yourself. You will be all the stronger for having to to manage this.

Maybe even consider moving out. Sometimes it may be for the best especially if your suffering too much emotionally. As for thinking you look dirty; well if your clothes are so old maybe check out some second hand stores for new clothes/try to find cheaper clothes online often things are put in second hand shops that have never been worn.

Pay attention to your grooming like hair, nails, teeth maybe wear some make-up, have clean shoes, repair your clothes and make sure they're always freshly laundered and ironed. I'm sure you won't look dirty. Don't sleep all day-its not good for you. Try to find helpful hobbies and new skills; especially life skills like cooking, driving, any helpful course. Try to pray and practice deep breathing exercise to help with those panic attacks. Even just go into your room and make it peaceful-light a candle & listen to serene music! Even 20 minutes a day to de-stress may help.

You get on top of it girl-Don't let it get on top of you!! i know you can do this. Life is a gift & so are you too! Your a gift to this world also so don't you forget it!!

Hope things feel better for you soon!!!

Sending you Lots and lots of love...

Okay so clearly you have a lot of stuff you need to figure out. Luckily i have experienced a lot of what you are going through. It really sucks having bad parents. They should be there to make your life better. You are one of many people who have sucky parents.

I used to be in the exact situation as you are. I used to always be told what to do, i would always be talked down to, discouraged to do this, really fat, the list goes on.

So when high school ended, i was fed up. So i sat with my self and i said that life is good and im not living it. Other people in the world are having a blast and i am not.

So i decided that i would get a decent good paying job (for a college student) in the city next to my college. I started working at a bank (got payed 13$ an hour). Once i had the job i decided to find people to dorm with in my college. I was 18, so my parents could yell and scream and ***** all they want but couldnt really do anything. I packed my things and moved in to the new dorm. I started going to school and my roommates were great. They helped me out.

They brought me around the city and really should me a good time. It was then that i decided to lose weight, I have been on a strict diet and ive lost nearly 40lbs. I am about 10lbs from a 6 pack. I also recently started dating this really beautiful girl, who actually has had shitty parents and did the same thing i did.

As for my dieting, i ate only healthy food and was on a low calorie intake. I started playing sports with my friends and found fitness to be a fun activity. I started running every day and now u could call me a run-a-holic haha.

Life is tough and fun. You must learn to get around those tough things to actually start having fun. I had a shitty high school experience, but i am loving life right now in college. I am working a good amount to keep up my bills during the week. But on weekends im always having a blast.

Dont give up on life. You are turning 18 soon, so you can literally do w/e you wanted (besides buy alcohol). Get away from your current life and live the life you want.

I really hope this helps. People do care about others. I felt bad for your situation even tho i never met you nor know your name.

So good luck with life. Dont give up. Theres light at the end of the tunnel.

Wow, it seems like you've got a lot on your shoulders. But, just take it step by step by day and things will get better! Try not to think about eating. Do things like going out for a walk eveyday which is easy and relaxing. Go places were you can get away from the food. Anywhere were your sure their won't be food, just go there! Buy lots of gum and chew on that so that you will always have something in your mouth. And, if you really feel like you can't do it on your own, attend health classes and health group sessions to help you out! Good luck p.s I read it all and i DO care because I used to go through almost the same thing! <3

I read all of this and I understand where you're coming from. I'm a couple of years older than you (19) and man...I would never want to be 17 again lol! I know you're going through a lot of crap and you really dont deserve to be treated that way. But all I can really say is...you're gonna have to just pick yourself up. no one else can support you and help you in your struggles so BELIEVE in yourself. I know this all sounds really really corny but it's the truth. put down that fatty food, realize that it will only make you feel like crap, will only make the days ahead of you more difficult. just get on the treadmill and run, there are ways to motivate yourself... hell, use ANGER as your fuel, seriously. if you feel like stopping, don't. tell yourself, there's no way in hell I am stopping. as for your situation at home...just look after yourself, keep yourself sane, ignore the name-calling, do things that make you feel good about yourself, that bring you back to a peaceful state...

and remember that your mom wont be around forever and you won't be staying in that house for long. and while you're trying to overcome this issue with eating, have HOPE. in time you will be rewarded with independence as well as confidence because you proved to yourself that you can pick yourself up and get on with it even when life is at its worst.

The animal is already dead? What kind of nonsense are you talking about? The animals are raised and killed specifically for human consumption. The meat is not from already dead animals, but slaughtered animals (and brutally slaughtered at that). Of course, one individual person may not have a large impact on the entire meat industry, but your options are to participate in the killing of billions of animals, or to abstain from eating animals. Yes, there are still animals being killed for other people, but there would be more killed if a vegetarian took up eating meat again. Just because the difference isn't blatantly obvious, does not mean it is not a positive contribution towards decreasing the demand for meat.

Well.... take diet pills. You know, the ones that make you feel fuller faster so you eat less! And punish yourself. If you eat something high in bad stuff like carbs, sugar, calories, FAT... do something you hate. Running, cleaning, anything you hate. And if you see it and crave it, tell yourself you are killing yourself. And if you are the one buying it, just stop. Don't even go IN that aisle. Switch over to low cal stuff. Sugar free juices. Exercise. Fruits and Vegetables... ever heard of those??? There are easy alternatives to eating.

:( you need to get out of that house tbh :/ When do you turn 18??

if youve got your own car just drive yourself to work too, if your mum nags just tell her you appreciate the offer but youde actually like to be on time. She sounds a lot like my mum with the invading your room at silly ocklock in the morning nagging about useless **** and tellng you your rooms a state :') lol

i have a similar problem but i just find it hard to move into anywer else due to lack of money really :/

do you not have a mates you can go round to everyday an just stay there all day?? lol i find it helps me loads for sum reason, like i only ever eat loads if m in the comfort of my own home, but round my mates never eat anything! you need to do somethng about it thou coz it only leeds to depression

:( xXx <3

wow...

i'm really sorry. something that i regret having gotten angry at my mom for is therapy. i know this is going to sound strange and everything but find someone to talk to. just one friend. i'm seventeen too and yeah....fighting with my mom is like fighting with another teenager sometimes. most of the time actually. the fact that you even went to the internet to talk is better than not saying anything at all. i've contemplated killing myself too for soooo many reasons that seemed so valid at the time. the thing is, college and the rest of my life is going to be so extremely more exciting than it is now. we have so many people we're going to meet and fall in love with.

when you go for runs, listen to music! ahhhh lol music is just...so very relaxing.

don't throw away food. i binge ALL THE TIME and went through a bulimic period even though i'm not overweight. just breathe. idk lol i don't really want to write too much here but im on facebook. my name is noelle choy and it's very nice to meet you :D

yeah idk how awkward this is now. but seriously dooooo it. i'd be so happy to be your friend. to talk or whatnot. of just to be a friend :) :) :)

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People will read this and people do care. Your weight problems may be solved by chewing gum and doing little bits of excercise here and there. Joins groups on the internet and talk to people. and I will always be here to talk to just e-mail me!