I pretend to be someone else online?

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Ok, about a year ago i went on to a website where you can put in your name and have a little cartoon picture of a person. I gave myself a fake name and boys randomly started to talk to me and said i have a pretty name and want to add me on msn. So, i made a fake msn account. Today i already have 78 friends, of which i talk to about 2/3 regularly and the rest are ALWAYS offline!!!
well ive been making things up, and even giving fake friends email adresses and telling the people i talk to how great the girl i made up is. also how rich and beautiful she is. it makes me feel sick to think that i could do such a thing.
i also made fake facebook accounts for 'friends' of this person i pretend to be. i use pictures from my normal facebook, of my friends and even my sister. i feel awful about it...
i also kind of fell in love with this guy, he's 22 and im 15. he says he loves me and is always ALWAYS talking about sex, he is never interested in what i have to say. i guess i only do it because i dont have many close friends in real life that i can share all my thoughts and feelings with.
he also tells me to go on webcam and tells me im pretty. he goes on webcam and once even pulled down his trousers and showed his 'thingy'.
that really scares me to think i would talk to him. but i have become obsessed with this lie, and i am in love with the character i play.
i know that i will never ever meet up with anyone on the internet, but i always feel as if they will find out.
i feel so guilty about all these lies. what are your opinions??

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I heard once a few years ago that something like 30 percent or more of the people chatting or communicating on line are role-playing like this. Girls try out being guys (they are the ones with the non-gender names), and guys try out being girls (they tend to giggle too much, and usually give themselves away, but they are harmless). Nerds try out being jocks, rich try out being poor, hetero tries out being bi or gays try out being straight... It feels good to explore making a new personality for yourself and try it out, be that person for a while, get away from all the junk you have to handle as your off-line self, and see what the real truth about yourself actually is, not just what you kinda, sorta, half think it might be. 
I don't think you are evil or anything, you are just exploring a fantasy. Just don't lead anybody into thinking you are going to get together with them for real. Make it clear to your online friends that you just go on for fun, not to look for partners or anything.
That guy who is 22? If he doesn't listen to what you say, block him. People who try to control you on-line are no good, no matter how sweet their talk is. A little cyber sometimes is fun and harmless, but if the other person thinks it means you are their girlfriend/boyfriend, it's gone too far, and you need to correct their mistake.
There is nothing wrong with exploring your character like this. It helps you grow as a person, and gives you insight about the way people live and act. The more you know about it, the better you will really become as a person, because you can add the things about this experimental personality you have made for online to your real self. Don't feel bad. It's exciting, anonymous, and if you are careful, safe.

Anonymous · Answer

Internet never meant for false identification.  Evil you are for impersonating someone...hmmm.

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