would u consider this cheating?

Most insecure women see it as cheating...unless he stuck his c__k in one of her many orifices, he didn't cheat...just got a cheap "thrill".

I don't think it's necessarily cheating, but it's walking a fine line and could easily cross over. I think the more important questions are whether or not you're honest with your wife about it and your wife is comfortable with it. If the answer to either of those questions is no, then you shouldn't be doing it.

Back when my wife and I were dating, I got a couple of lap dances while at friends' bachelor parties (I never requested them, they were initiated and paid for by friends). My wife (gf at the time) and I talked about it afterward, and she let me know that she doesn't mind me going to strip clubs occasionally, but she was uncomfortable with me getting lap dances. I completely understand her viewpoint and agreed to her request. I haven't been back to a strip club since then (I don't particularly enjoy them), but if I were to go for a bachelor party or something, I'd certainly respect her wishes.

I wouldn't consider it cheating. I have a high threshold. Cheating is when a man (or woman) has an ongoing emotional and sexual relationship with another person. Without the ingredients of BOTH an emotional attachment and physical sexual intercourse, it's difficult to say that a person is cheating.

Watching porn, masturbation, dolls, toys, strip-clubs etc do not qualify as cheating.

It's not cheating since most of the time it's done as a boys night out with women that are hardly worth looking at outside the clubs while you're slopping down a number of beers or mixed drinks. Fact is most of the time guys at those clubs are pretty stoic unless they're with their buddies getting loud and halfway silly. It's not cheating when the woman wants no part of you but the $20 bill since they can't and won't touch you and you're not allowed to touch them.

Strip club = sexual gratification, Period!

If you are engaged in gratification, then you are accepting outside influence sexually. If that were the case, then you are cheating if you have a significant other.

Cheating can be classified as emotional, physical sex or psycho sexual consort with someone outside an exclusive relationship.

I dont go to strip clubs, because it is boring... I dont see the big hoop-la... I am a straight male, but I am a long time artist that drawn many nudes... I am at the point a naked woman can sit on my lap and you wont get a rise out of me.... I just dont get it... not exciting... not to mention I dont drink...

However, If I were married and my wife were to say she was going to a strip club, I would forbid it! If she still goes, According to my beliefs, I can divorce her for adultry, because it is adultry based upon covetious nature. JEWISH!

I wouldn't consider it cheating, but getting a lap dance would be really pushing it. Especially if I am not there with him.

Personally I don't like strip clubs, I would deff. have a problem because what ever those girls I can do just the same, ill even let you put it in. Now you cant get that at strip club :)

ITS NOT CHEATING BUT IT IS A WASTE OF MONEY. THERE NOT GONNA GET THE GIRL UNLESS THE PAY BIG. I USED TO WORK AT A STRIP SPOT AND ALL WE WANT IS THE MONEY. A GIRL WILL ACT INTERESTED TILL YOUR BROKE. MY HUBBY GOES TO THOSE PLACES AND IT HURTS ME CUZ I USED TO B THAT GIRL. I KNOW HES NOT GOING TO HOOK UP AND IT JUST A COOL ATMOSPHERE. BUT I STILL GET UPSET. I LEARNED TO GET OVER IT BY GOING OUT WITH MY GIRLS FOR A DRINK INSTEAD OF BEING HOME ALL MAD WAITING FOR HIM. DONT OVER THINK IT. AND IF HE CONTINUES TO GO MAKE THE SUGGESTION TO GO WITH HIM. LADIES DO THIS ALL THE TIME. I DO TO. U WILL C THERE NOT ALL PRETTY AND THERE PHONY. ITS JUST A PLACE THAT MAKES MEN FEEL GOOD ABOUT THEMSELVES. HE SHOULDNT HAVE A PROBLEM WITH U TAGGING ALONG IF HES NOT DOING NE THING WRONG. BE OPEN MINDED. GOOD LUCK

Cheating? Not sure.

The problem is - I would sure lose the respect I have for him and instead feel disgust towards him.

It's not cheating, per se...

Just yucky. I mean, shouldn't he rather YOU give him a lap dance than some stripper with chipped fingernails and knife wounds in her back?

Nothing says "Sperm Dumpster" like a stripper.

Not cheating if he had informed you before and was sure if you felt comfortable. Cheating otherwise!! What if you swap places ..will he be perfectly ok??