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What to do about my friend :'(?
Right sorry this is kinda a long story but i really need your help and top get this of my chest.
Background stuff: One of my best friends who is female and hetro has always been pro gay and like gay rights and stuff and always mocked friends who were homophobic and was being really disgusted. Oh yeah and we once had this friend that said if one of her friends was a lesbian she would be really scared tthat she fancied her and my best friend said that was big headed.
Anyway the other day we were in the study room by the photo copier and i did this really patronsiing face pinching thing on her cheeks which ive always done. I know thats bitchy but thats neither her nor there.
Anyway she jumped out of her skin and i could see she was really scared i looked into her eyes and she said stop it people might think we were weird. I knew the truth, I'm paranoid a lot of the time but this time something deep in my soul told me the truth.
Anyway so i got in a mood being really upset so then when she finally got it out of me that i thought that why she flinched she was all like omg i cant believe you would say this and all that because you know im ok with that. lets go to a public place and kiss anyway.
so anyway i gave her the benefit of the doubt but the other night ( cause i keep making jokes about it because i want to get it out so we can be friends again) she said she didnt want people gossiping about us.
even tho the only person that saw me touch her face was some guy who probably isnt the type of guy who would 'gossip' anyway.
NOT that theres anything to gossip abiout because OMG YES I TOUCHED HER ******* FACE! that is so sex these days!
so yeah now im scared to go anywahere near her because i think if i touch her she will get scared. that i fancy her which by the way i dont. shes a very attractive girl but im not into her in the slightest i like this other girl Lauren aw she's so cute :').
so for a start she lied to me, she made me feel bad/ like an idiot because i accoused her when all the time she was lying to me.
secondly its clearly a problem for her that i'm gay otherwise it wouldnt matter to her if i was straight ebcause it wouldnt make a difference.
I've known i was gay for years but didnt tell ger bvecuase i was scared of this from the start and now i regret that i did :(
i feeel our friendship is ruined :(
do you understand ? please someone give me some helpful advice im desperate :(
thankyou xx
6 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Maybe somebody said something to her and she worries about her rep.
Which is dumb because, whether you are gay or not that shouldn't change the friendship.
I would just talk to ask her if you being gay weirds her out and just go from there. Tell her that she is an important friend and that you trusted her with this and that you aren't into her if she is concerned about that. Best of luck, just don't try to change who you are for your friends convenience she should accept you as you are.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Lets see how to being: first off maybe her reaction wasnt the best but it was how she feels truthfully and inside of her and you have to respect that no matter what good or bad. Now she may tell you all these things like she doesnt care about gays and what not but i think inside of her it secretly buggs her. Knowing that u made her nervous i think you shouldnt press the issue and just let it go(dont talk about it or joke). Now the real test is leave her be and see if she wants to continue the friendship that yall have. If she comes back like what happened why arent you talking/hanging to me anymore than you know that she values your friendship over her secret fear. BUT if she doesnt respond at all than you know the truth about her and it would probably be better for you not to be around her.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
omg 1 of my friends found out i was gay like 5 days ago and now she wont let me touch her or stand beside her or anything.
when i asked her bout it she said it was because she was scared that i might fancy her or sumthing and that she will feel better when i get a girlfriend again.(i dumped my girlfriend like 2 weeks ago cause i didnt think it was workin out)but i think that isnt fair cause i havent changed im still me and i have no atraction to her wat so ever.
anyhoo i know how u feel and all i can say is to talk to her and try to work things out.
good luck =p
- Anonymous1 decade ago
I don't get it. Does she know you're gay or not?
She's being immature. She shouldn't care about any gossip that's not true. That was your queue to slap her in the face & say "Grow up." (Or you could do it nicer..)
- 1 decade ago
try talking to her why she acting the way that make you feel so bad. i'm bi and my friend are fine with me hugging them, ect. if you find out she dislike you being gay then she not truly your friend. tell her how you feel and tell her to ignore all the b.s people will talk about
- 1 decade ago
To heck with her if she is homophobic. you shouldnt be forced to act differently to sooth homophobes feelings. she must not have been as good a friend as you though. she acts like you tried to go down on her in public. HOMOPHOBE!!!!
