Why do some names bother some people so much?

Well, personally I like classic and traditional names, and sometimes I do wince when I hear a good friend named her kid Jaden or Mia, but I try not to be rude about it. Honestly, I'm pretty sure that kids with odd names are going to grow up thinking that those names are normal and we have the weird ones. It's their parents (younger, trendier parents tend to choose modern, trendy names), or just our modern culture, that I end up judging when looking at names that make me shudder. Some I can handle, like Carris or neighbors named Kempton (boy) and Tanalee (girl), since they still sound like names to me.

And the boy-girl thing- it's not the girl I'm worried about, actually. Little girls are perfectly fine having boy names, and some purposely choose boy-ish nicknames for their girl names. What bothers me is the little boys in the class sharing his name with a girl- they'll have a much harder time of it. And, looking at history, names tend to go from boy to girl, but never the other way around- just think about the boys' names Lesley, Evelyn, Shannon, and Whitney, for instance. Can you name even one name that used to be a girls' name and is now a boys'? So even if my little Spencer grows up secure with his own name, he may not want to pass on family names to his own kids. He might be ashamed to name his own son after him if he wanted, because it might be a complete girls name by then.

1. People are asking for opinions on here, people are giving their honest opinions. If someone doesn't want an honest answer, why bother asking at all?

2. Some of the spellings I've seen are ridiculous, they go against ever single grammar rule and make the person who is asking about it seem ignorant. There is a big difference between something not-so-ordinary (Like your name) and something ridiculous (Like Kayleigha or something).

3. Most people are either A. Sick of Traditional Names or B. Sick of "unique", trendy names so either way you're going to get a few people who hate your name choices and a few who love them. (This goes back to #1, if you don't want an honest answer, don't ask)

4. Many of the "unique", trendy names out there are not going to last the test of time, they don't age well, which is probably a good thing because many of them are awful. Some names will always be good names because they are strong names... but things like Hayden, Nevaeh, and Jazzlyn are going to look ridiculous on an application someday.

people ask questions on here to hear what other people think, what would be the point if everyone just agreed?

it's good to say what COULD be the potential problems to naming there child a very unique name, or spelling it weirdly, so they can make a decision based on having many opinions on it, which is why they ask. most people that answer these questions aren't trying to tell people what to name there children, just give there opinions to try and help them decide on the perfect name for there child.

if people don't want honest opinions, they shouldn't ask, at the end of the day, it's there child and they can name them what they want. it doesn't bother me in the slightest what other people name there children, but if they ask a question, i'm going to give my honest answer, i'm trying to help with there decision making the best i can, i respect people have different tastes in names, but if i think there is a high chance the name may be an embarrassment to the child, or an annoyance, i will say, whilst being as respectful as i can.

i say names are nice, when they are, even if they arnt exactly to my personal taste, but if someone if going to to call there child fifi trixabelle or whatever, and they ask, im not going to encourage it.

While I do admit some people on here can be rude when they answer, they have a lot of good points. Like some people have already said, there's a line between different, and "what the hell was she thinking?"

I love different names, names that a lot of people would consider odd, I even like some unisex names like Rowan and Remy, but I draw the line at spelling Caitlin Katyelynne, because really, where's that going to get her in life? No father than if her name was spelled correctly. Its just going to be spelled and said wrong all the time, which is a pain.

I like the names Taryn, Rowan, Remy, and Gavin, they're different but they're not pretentious.

I think that there is a fine line between nice names and ridiculous names. Sure, some people don't voice their opinions in a nice way but if you're asking for their opinion, you have to be willing to take their criticism.

I like unique names. Like Carris, your name, is very pretty, and still unique, and sure you have to pronounce/spell it for people but like you said that doesn't bother you. But people have to ask how to spell it because it's not common and they're honestly not sure. If your name is, say, "Heyleigh," someone is automatically going to spell it Haley or Hailey, because they are the common spellings. To me, excessive letters and spelling names exactly as they are pronounced looks juvenile, and looks like a parent is trying too hard to be different. Why butcher a perfectly good spelling of a perfectly good name when they can always find a unique name that doesn't have to be spelled strangely?

Here's Why:

When you try really hard to be original or 'unique' and make up names or spellings in order to achieve this, you end up looking like you tried really hard and most of the names souns juvenile and try-hard.

Names that are unusual are fine and quite lovely - but if they sound tacky or made-up they lose their appeal.

It is not unique to give your child a name like Kayleigh / Brayleigh or Ashalynn / Braelin as there are SO many other little ones out there with similar names so it ends up being more unoriginal than using a rarely used, traditional name.

Whether you like it or admit it or not, people DO judge people based on their names. No its not right or fair - but I certainly wouldnt want to put my child at a disadvantage in the future just because I wanted their name to sound Unique

Giving you child a name you like and disregarding what people who have class and better taste say (or those who say "it's my child I can name them what I like") are being slightly conceited and overbearing....you are naming an adult not a cute little baby and they have to deal with the consequences of the name you decided on.

If you ask for people's opinions, you're going to get them, and chances are they won't be sugar coated. If someone is too sensitive to have their name or names criticized, perhaps they shouldn't ask the question.

Granted, there are tactful ways to voice an opinion, but regardless, if people don't like something, it is their right to tell the asker. For example, re spellings bother me, a lot, having friends and relatives who struggle with them on a daily basis, I feel its only fair that when someone asks what I think, I bring up that spelling Jack as Jayque will be hard for their child to live with. Often times people feel it will make their child unique to give them an off the wall name, or a name that is spelled in a way that is completely abnormal and trendy, but that's not the case. The person makes the name, not the other way around, and some things will be hard for a child to live down.

It may not bother YOU to tell every single person you encounter how to spell or pronounce your name, or to inform them that you are a female and not a male, but there are people that it does affect. I wish someone would've told my mother that my initials spelled out a boy's name, it would've saved me a lot of teasing when I was younger if she'd have known. I have a 3 year old cousin named Ryder, not only do the day care providers often spell his name incorrectly on forms or personalized items, they also mistakenly call him other things like Ryan, which is hard for a toddler.

Everyone has different tastes, and knowing that, people should be open to opinions and take them accordingly, obviously I'm not going to be over the moon about someone calling their daughter Aubriee when I'd consider using the original Aubrey for my son, that doesn't mean its not perfectly acceptable to other people, it means I just don't care for it.

Diversity is what makes us thrive, and people aren't trying to limit the creativity or rights of a parent by informing them that their kid may have a hard time later on in life, they're trying to open their eyes to someone that they don't see. People like you who think you and your children are invincible and exempt from teasing should probably avoid asking questions, as you're only looking for one sided, sugar coated answers.

ETA: Unusual and different names don't have to look ridiculous or illiterate. Lilith, Adella, Silas, and Josiah are perfectly fine names. Names like Lyndsey, Kaylei, and Mylee are not.

ETA 2: In what reality would someone pick a lawyer named Moon Unit over one named Katherine, of equal qualification? I'm very confused as to where you're getting that from, it seems irrational to me, cause where I live that would just not happen. Lets face it, its hard to take some names seriously. I don't mind names that are modern, things like Ryan, Dylan, Brandon, River, Savannah, Sage, etc. are fine, like I said, everyone's taste is different, people will get teased no matter what, but you're asking for it if you name them something ridiculous and insubstansial. I could never take Promise Miracle seriously, some one named Ember Cadence? sure, why not, at least the name is legitament.

If you ask an opinion online, you have to expect people are gonna tell you exactly how they feel since they never have to see your reaction. That's just how it is.

Are you relieved that you got to say your peace now? =) lol.

i hate the name "Nicholas Cage" :D

nicholas cage....blah