Picture this...It is a screaming hot day on Saturday..I am outside mowing our huge yard...?

Sorry this happened to you.

I think you should ask him to go for counseling with you.

If he won't ? Consider leaving him so that you don't have to put up with his abuse anymore.

I am sure he has done other things besides this.

Peace.

i have no answer here...as an older guy with kids out of the house, grandkids still coming along, and pretty much all the things in life that anyone has to deal with, i have to say that this is all way beyond me...and i don' think there's an answer for it...certainly, anything done to change it will result in a lot more problems arising...

that said, doing nothing is almost sure to make this problem get worse...

i'm sure you'll get all kinds of advice here, some of it even a bit helpful, some of it just plain ignorant...the point is, in the end, it's you who has to decide whether to do anything at all, and if you choose to do something, it's you who will have to make it work as best as you can...and take the responsibility for any ensuing results...

you don't say anything about any actual physical abuse, but i'd remind you to keep the possibility in mind if there's any chance of that...preventing being hurt physically is a must, and if it should happen, you have to be prepared to do something about it immediately...don't put up with that because it won't stop...

again, you don't say much about any other details of your marriage and home life, so it's impossible to say much more...but the most important thing right now is for you to separate your anger and frustration from thinking about the whole situation...you must think clearly and keep it based on the facts and reality of your overall situation...many things might not seem possible, but this thing called life often requires that we do something that seems impossible, and as well, in spite of what other people might think...too often we are worried about how our church or friends or family will react, which is fine much of the time, but then, sometimes the problem we face is beyond allowing for such concerns...

i wish you well...you need to be strong no matter what you do...

I know what you mean. However, my husband has not designated any chores to me, I do it cause I want it done right. I also, don't want to trouble him in doing it since he works very hard anyway out at work.

BUT, I would like more appreciation, less screaming and anger from him. He has become spoiled by me doing all the work, so if he see's something is not being done for him he gets way angry.

Respect and appreciation is needed for both husband and wife, no matter what.

Cows!!! That's funny but what isn't funny is you out in the yard mowing it that's a mans job. I can see me now mowing our yard hell would freeze over first before my azz would be out there in the hot sun. I keep our house clean and my husband pays someone to mow our lawn.

WOW. At first I had a hard time believing this really even happened. I couldn't imagine any husband treating their wife like that. I thought that it was the man's responsibility to do all that heavy labor yard work o_O.

You can't keep a man like THAT happy. Not all men are like that. You're not going to change him. He is who he is.

i would look at it this way - u were exercising on a fresh air getting tanned while he was cooped inside breathing ionized conditioned air which is very, very, very bad for u. so u were getting muscles and tan while he was becoming fat and ill. well, of course i am white so tan is good for me. anywho, if he were the one who provided u with cows and air conditioned mansion u better shut the f up and continue your house work and DON'T U DARE SCARE HIS COWS! but if u can afford a house and cows yourself - which i think u can not anyway. so just forget it

HA-HA..sorry..I just had an image in my brain of my husband trying to designate anything to me..

YOU teach people how to treat YOU... teach him.. don't allow that.. don't mow the lawn and don't play the victim.

u know honey? u should keep ur calm and don't b sad.the days will cross from your Life and 1 day u will see thattooooooo old.so be cool and calm.ok?

never mind keeping a man like that happy, why the feck would you wanna keep him at all? sorry, i'd rather be alone.

So, he's making valuable family time with his son, and instead of joining in, you abandon them?

Perhaps your priorities are wrong.