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Found out my boyfriend had a relationship with a transexual a few years ago, should I feel worried?
My boyfriend recently admitted that a few years ago he had a relationship with Thai ladyboy for several months. He also admitted that eventhough the relationship has ended he still called her in Thailand from time to time. He has re-assured me that this was a one of and that I am the woman in his life now, but I still feel worried. I know we live in a society where men more than women are forced to suppress any homosexual feelings they might have, and I guess Im just worried that one day, many years from now he might change his mind, tell me that he has been "suppressing his true feelings and has come to his senses" and leave me to return to this person in Thailand. Am I being paranoid here or are my concerns justified?
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- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
A transsexual female is a female, so he basically just told you about any other ex girlfriend. There is nothing to worry about.
- J Andy ALv 51 decade ago
If you want him to stay in your life, you first must decide whether you can tolerate these particular kinds of indescretions he has committed. He may try to swear-off that behavior, but sooner or later it will call to him again. If you don't want him to start lying about it, then create an accepting and supportive relationship even with this. Giving him the latitude, while still being in a relationship with you, will be more than he has experienced before. He can be in love with you, while still having these little sexual itches which need to be scratched from time to time. Don't take it personally, and don't try to fill that role. If you handle it this way... YOU will be his love. The other is not much more than him relieving a physical need.
Source(s): I know people may not like my answer. But if he's going to do it anyhow, would you rather live with truth or deception. Force him to lie with the threat of rejection, and he will lie. Just like religions sometime cause people to "pretend" Personally, I'd rather be who I am, than who I think you want me to be. I can not BE who you want, only YOU can fit that role. I AM, that I AM. - ChrisLv 41 decade ago
I think you're being a bit paranoid and should talk him about it and tell him all your concerns. A relationship will only last if you two talk about how you feel about the past, present, and future.
- 1 decade ago
He's not suppressing any homosexual feelings, at least from what you've said. A transwoman is not a man.
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- 1 decade ago
no dont be worried :) he told you cause he knows ur the woman in his life and he wanna share everything about his past with you , if he still wanna have anything to do with the lady boy he totally would never tell you about it
