i work hard all week and when i get home i do the cooking and then just want to veg out becuase im tired.?

You need to sit down and discuss the issue with her...talk about her behaviors and how you feel about them, and what you'd like to see change...find out from her why she acts the way she does and what about her perspective of the situation causes her to feel like your requests or desires are inappropriate...

If you can't resolve the issue together, then talk to a couples counselor...it's not odd that behavior like you describe would dampen your spark for someone...work on fixing that before the flicker goes out and cannot be re-ignited...

She is obviously being unreasonable and she is so magnificent at nagging that she even has you questioning logic.

Im assuming she gets her breaks,too? If she isn't, that may be part of it.

If your spending time with the family, aren't hitting the bar after work most evenings, spend most of the free time with the family then of course you deserve you time to workout, chill out, recoup and playing football for a few hours is reasonable, again, as long as she is free to have her own alone time. If its balanced and fair (btw bonus that you cook) and she is moaning and groaning, tell her your not going to sit around listening to her because its making your ears bleed.

I am going to assume this has been talked about, probably over and over again but was it talked about in a mutually respectful way with honest listening? D you even know what the real deal is?

Has she had the chance to tell you without you asking in a offensive way?

She needs to know you both deserve your free time within reason of where and how much time is spent.

You could choose to walk away when she starts nagging but her reaction wont be pleasant but eh it isn't pleasant anyway.

What she fails to understand is that during the work week she gets Me time when neither the home nor the child occupies her attention however, you get it ONLY during the weekends....yes you three need to spend time as a family and yes, you two ned to spend time as a couple but you also need to spend time as an individual.

So insist on some Me time for part of the weekend, sometimes on Sat, sometimes on Sun. While you should let her know where you are headed and with who....you do NOT have to supply her with an hour by hour intinerary....as long as your cell phone is on and charged for an epermecy call, it should be fine.

Unless she is moaning a justifiable reason for you NOT to spend some Me time with your guy friends, ignore it....and encourage her to have some Me time with the girls...

..or is that the problem...she's relying on you to supply her with all her adult discourse/interaction. If so, that is bad for her...and tell her so. being a sucessful couple does NOT require beng up some one's @zz 24/7.

let her 'issue orders' and stamp her feet...a quiet " You are NOT my mother " should snap her back to reality. Stay calm and insist on some Me time for yourself....and you can only be guilted if you let it.

It's true that honesty is best, but consider how you're delivering your message, too. When you think you're being honest, you may be delivering additional messages that you don't intend to be giving if you do it wrong.

In response to mtnhotte's suggestion to yell and scream your way through this, I must disagree. Yelling and screaming anything will most assuredly deliver messages you weren't intending to send, particularly, "I don't love you" and "I don't want you." You will break up your marriage going down that path.

Your wife could benefit from the same evaluation of how she's delivering her message too. Consider how she's appearing to you, and I'm pretty certain she probably doesn't intend to appear that way.

What I can tell from what I'm reading is that your wife wants to spend time with you and your daughter. She wants you to go out grocery shopping with her. For some reason, she's dissatisfied with whatever amount of time you're giving her. Are you really sure you can't muster up the energy to go out with her? Do you know what message you might be sending to her when you say you don't want to go out with her? If you did, then maybe you could counter that message by saying something, like, "I'd love to go out with you, because I love being with you... But I'm tired, and I need to stay home and rest." That way, you've countered any unintended messages.

When you go out for personal time, she gets all up in arms, but why? After re-reading your post, I can find no mention of where you say you give her a few hours of personal time with no child to take care of on the weekend. Quid pro quo. Give her a few hours of personal time, without a kid, and I'm sure that you'll find she's less resentful when you ask for a few hours to throw around a football. Fair is fair, and most people can understand that concept.

Based upon what authority does she make the rules and call the shots ?

The problem started long ago when you compromised and did as she requested ( presumably to be a good guy ).

Now she is under the impression she has the power to make the rules.

You need to tell this bytch that she's getting out of hand and that when you comply with a request it's by choice and not some kind of requirement.

The bottom line is that you do what you want and if she makes it worth your while that ( MIGHT ) include some of the things that she wants to do , but that she no longer calls the shots.

Your wife is acting like a spoiled child and she's teaching your daughter the same technique. You deserve some "you time". I'm sure that many people here will tell you to "talk to her". I believe you have and now it is time to tell her point blank that when you say no, it means no. Not that you don't love her or enjoy spending time with her, but just that, at that time, in that moment, you needs some space. If she isn't adult enough to understand that and be ok with it, there will be bigger troubles in your future with her.

She's already compromising by making use of tolerating meat interior the living house, and tolerating you cooking it interior the kitchen. it is common and reasonable for her to no longer prefer to coach meat for you. it is going to probable be an analogous with the youngsters. Meat will come from food offered exterior the living house, or arranged by making use of you. So, you're able to have seen attempting whether you prefer to stay. No dating is suited. in case you determine the sturdy outweighs the imperfections, comply with settle for her regulations approximately cooking meat and permit it bypass.

from what you said I get the distinct feeling that you two need to sit down and talk openly about what is going on in your lives. This sounds like the beginning of a problem for the two of you. Relationships can go south quickly without communication at all levels. Don't be angry with one another just be open and honest about your expectations in your relationship and what each wants and needs from it.

Grow a pair.Dominating is not love.She sounds really insecure as well.Guys need me time just like we women do.You are not messing around so you need to explain that you need this time for yourself.In the long run it makes for a healthier relationship.Might try asking why she wants you with her at all time.I love my husband but we all need time away. Thank God for hunting season,the only time I can get my house cleaned without someone tracking...

well, we spend all weekends and all evenings with my husband. nobody wants to have time alone. he has time alone while he works, i have time alone while HE works. when it is evening or weekend we WANT to spend time together. and we even exercise together - go to gym or bike or for a swim or for a walk. so how come u want your time alone? this is why she is nagging - she wants to be with u and u do not. why did u get married if u need time alone?