He LEFT me, again...now he changed his mind and asked me to marry him...?

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I am 23 and he is 24, he was my first everything..for 7yrs he was the one i was suppose to be with the rest of my life. He kept breaking up with me, 3 different times for other girls and his reason at the time was to "JUST BE SINGLE" this last time in april i gave him wat was suppose to be another chance and he left me in that month, he said he DIDNT NEED A GF AND WANTED TO FOCUS ON SCHOOL WHICH HE NEVER ENROLLED IN AND MUSIC...shortly after that, he was talkin to a NEW girl..now that she rejected him, he came back to me and said everything our past 7 yrs was a mistake and he didnt mean what he said that he never loved me..now he is saying HE IN FACT loves me more than life itself and wants me to marry him...Should i give him another chance?? I love him so much, yet he has treated me like Sh*t our relationship and when I didnt want to break up with him, he ignored my calls, texts and anyting else. so i tried to move on...now that i met awesome friends whom have helped me he says he wants me to give them up..the guys at least if he and i get back together..what should i do.he knows i always treated him so well, and i stayed home while he was the one who went out..thanks in advance

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

DON'T MARRY HIM! you'll regret it I PROMISEE! people don't change! i know this for a fact ive heard so many stories about how "he'll change after marriage" "he'll change after kids" "i can change him" "I'll help him" well guess what "he left me" "he's an alcoholic" "he hasn't grown up" and so on... don't do it people seriosly do NOT change besides your 23! you're still young live a little!! you'll meet mr. right one day i promise :) this guy is NOT mr. right i swear. you'll regret it in the end. have fun and wait for your prince charming to show up:)

cookie · Answer

You should stop being a door mat and tell this man you're done with all the bull crap.  He doesn't love you.  He only wants you until something better comes along.  If you go back to him, he will leave you again.  Just prepare yourself for that.  And how can you possibly love someone who continues to hurt you?  You should seek counceling on your low self esteem.  Good luck.

Jessy · Answer

The constant roller coaster ride would be a red flag. I personally wouldn't give him another chance. It's not like he has only done this once, it's been three times, he doesn't know what he wants. What happens if he changes his mind again once you are married or once there are children involoved?

I'd be gone and find someone who knows what they want and doesn't play these back and forth games.

Bjorn · Answer

I am going to make this short and simple.

If he really cared about you, ever, he would not have ignored your calls or texts.

This guy is a cancer, and will continue to make your life miserable. Not only that, but think of how many truly good men you have missed out on while wasting 7 years on this jerk.

♥Pardonne Moi♥ · Answer

So, after typing all that, you actually think taking him back would be a good idea? Are you that desperate for a man? You need some self respect and leave that boy alone!

criselda · Answer

Personally, he doesn't deserve you. You deserve someone better. Don't make your life miserable. If he really love you, he will not ask you to give up your friends nor hurt you by going oout w/ other girls. He will treat you with respect.

Paraiba Blue · Answer

Stop playing his game, it's nuts to live that way.  Make a new life and don't look back  because his road leads nowhere, he's too unstable, you cannot depend upon him if ever you need help.

jilllpilll · Answer

You deserve so much better than this.  You are headed down a very dark path. He wants to control you.  He will always cheat on you, he will always control you.  You will NOT be happy

Socks · Answer

Don't give that a** another chance! He'll leave you as soon as some other girl comes along!

Trailer Park Trash · Answer

no don't marry him (just yet) you two are still young and he obviously doesn't know what he wants he seems to still want to "play" and not settle down. if you two got married and he cheated then what? divorce i would hold off on getting married till he can figure out he only wants you in his life...good luck

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