How can I improve my attitude (really need advice)?

You still need to continue with anger management and you have other issues. You should talk to a councelor because all this will get a lot worse once you start to look for a job and you cannot accept constructive criticiszm... which is there not to ''put a person down and make fun of them but this kind of criticizm is meant to help you to learn from mistakes, and you have to learn to accept that help.... and also work with your colleagues as a team. Therefore get some treatment now otherwise you will fall out with your future employer and with your future work colleagues and everything could be great, you could get a nice job and have nice colleagues... you have to treat others as you want to be treated... you aren't better or worse than the rest. So don't get above yourself. If you are right about something that's fine to stand by your opinion and it's ok to be assertive but not to get aggressive or to get into a temper tantrum if others try to tell you something and they do it because they have worked there for a long time and have more experience and just want to help you.....

You need to love yourself and love and respect others.

Do it now for your sake, because if you go from job to job because of differences with everyone at work you become unemployable...Get help and just accept you have a problem and be willing to listen to your councelor to overcome this attitude

Well obviously , you realise this is a hard problem to solve , and I kinda have trouble with it too . Attitude is tough to change . But a way that kinda helps me from exploding and back talking is like just clamping my mouth shut and if that isn't enough basically like dig my thumb nail into another one of my fingers . this kinda distracts me from whats happening and gives me a sense that I have some control over what is happening . Another reason I do this is because I usually just want to like squeeze something like make a fist or something , but this gives me the control part too , cause i can ease up or push down harder whenever i want . And try counting to 10 or something - its annoying and stuff , but it sometimes works . With each number just breath out deeply too .

I know standing up for yourself is REALLY important , I mean , otherwise you'll get pushed around . But you can't over do it , which seems like what you're doing , right ? Something that maybe you can do is only reply with one sentence or something . And if absolutely necessary , two or three . But if you do anymore than that , then you may be going over board . Another way to think about it is by counteracting one of their points with one of your own . And if you MUST win , then add one more on the end . But don't put too many out at once .

And an even better way to end it is by calmly counteracting your points (especailly when you're doing this with a friend) and then in the end just be like , 'okay , we're even now :)' or something like that .

Also , if you're going to snap at someone , but haven't yet , think about what you're doing . Why are you angry ? What did they say or do ? And is it that big of a deal ? \

Hope that helps !!!! :D

I'm sorry about your Dad :(

Tell yourself at times you are wrong when you are. It may help getting used to the feeling of being wrong sometimes and it's hard to argue with yourself. Also ask friends for help in that. Have them point out you're wrong. At some point you will realise you can't be right all the time and the argueing should diminish as well. (make sure they don't argue back to you, tell them to not take heed of the argueing)

Realising things are your own fault can be difficult but it's a huge step in the right direction for you. Same goes for acknowledging your problem.

Try to let go of the control at times. Go do something with your friends but give them the ropes, they have the lead. Also with your mom, let her boss you around sometimes. Help her with the dishes for example, she has the lead. If you feel the need to argue, do that to yourself. Just mumble to yourself and keep going.

Try not to argue back. Let them have their moment instead of trying to have the last word every time. And don't get hostile when someone tells you off. Take a deep breath, close your eyes and count to ten.

Ask for help more often. If you don't like help unless you ask for it but people are trying to, ask for it. If you notice someone wants to help you, ask for it. They want to help you for a reason, it's because they care for you.

You are grieving baby!! Anger is always part of the grieving process! give yourself a break and relax. keep up with the classes too, they sure as hell can't hurt. Anger and being mean to people will make you a miserable person for the rest of your life. At least you are smart enough to know you have an anger problem. Talk to someone, if you don't like that someone, find another one until you find one you DO like. And above all, allow yourself to grieve. Good luck to you... I believe you will work through this and be just fine.

You gotta really know that you don't have to be right all the time and it's OK to be wrong. And the next time you feel like arguing with people ask yourself "What's the damn point?".

Hey, I know it's easier said than done, but just try to hold back a little.

First I'm sorry to hear about your dad that is really tough to face. Your mum is trying to understand how you feel and is trying to give you some support but you are making it hard for her. You are going to make life hell for her if you don't comfort her and make her aware you love her. Treat her from time to time and let her know you love her. Life doesn't revolve around you I know that sounds harsh but it's true. It took me a long time to realise that and you need to realise that. Your friends love you but your behaviour will make them hate you. I myself I am in the process of changing but things you need to know is that until you know you are bad you won't change. Remember this from me ' you will never get it right until you get it wrong'! Yes you are going to make mistakes yes there are going to be times when you want to just loose your head with your mum and your friends but respect your mum. My mum is a pain but I still love her she wants the best for me so does your mum. Listen to her because she is talking from experience. Whenever you feel you want to just blow up think of the good time you had with your dad and just have the mentality that he is watching over you. Make him proud. I know it's very difficult but use his death as an excuse. Find someone you can talk to it doesn't have to be a friend or your mum it can be your dad's photograph, your reflection or a homeless on the street. Life is a game you need to play it. Your misses him you know and if you change your mum will gradually be happy because her daughter has changed. Good Luck and you can email me if you want to talk. x

well i guess just don't assume you're always right, that simply can't be and learn to accept other people's opinions even if you don't agree w/ them. it's called respect

chill out