A Question For Guys: What Is On Your Mind When Thinking of Asking A Girl Out?

I've been dating since I was a teen, and I can't identify any one thing on my mind when I asked anyone out. Why would there be one? I tend to date girls younger than me, but nothing ridiculous. 20 year olds are bad enough lol. I don't need to date any more 15 year olds. I had my fill of that when I was that age, trust me. Too much drama. lol. "it's only dating" is not "ok", it's a bad fit for both partners at that age, and a bit disgusting.

Oh well though , it's not going to change.

Ok you can pretty much root this. What is on your mind when asking someone out. Either two things, a one night stand or a full blow relationship. If you go to a full blown relationship you get married. If you get married you have a family? How do you get a family? You have sex! Ultimately, when you ask someone out it all comes down to sex. I mean, that is just how life is. Every relationship is all roots down to sex.

There are different kinds though, a one night stand type deal would be quick pleasure sex. A relationship would be a loving sex (Also pleasurable obviously.)

You see a chick and say, "shes pretty hot, I like to get with her (sex)". This doesn't mean that their intentions are never honorable but they ultimate goal of talking to you is to get you in bed (not always a bad thing). While dating you just begin to wonder how long its gonna take for it to happen, that doesn't mean that they don't care about you, its just an ultimate future goal.

i actually learned about this in my intro to psych class, the chapter talked about how woman look to older men who are wealthy because they are better equipped to care for the woman's offspring, and men look to younger more physically attractive women because those women will be more likely to produce offspring and have healthy babies, thus giving a greater chance for the man's genetics to be passed on, (reproductive success they called it), the same goes for most species and homo sapien is no exception, older men will hit on younger women because their minds are wired to see them as more likely to reproduce (rather crazy considering how most of these men would turn tail and run if the woman ACTUALLY got pregnant) but it really explains a lot, thats why you see old rich guys with young hot wives....

For me i'm a one in a million my thought are i think i love her. But i need to get to know her. I have never pushed for sex but i have turned it down (no i'm not gay) My mind thinks about the woman not me. So i was thinking maybe she is the one. And i'm happy i found her

asking out a way to get to know her dating

hoping she wants to get to know more about me

1) If she will reject me or not

2) If it can work out or not

and yea ur right, eventually sex comes up so you cant really "only be dating".

I have a feeling any dude that dates you is never going to get laid.

1) I wonder if she'd ever have sex with me

2) I wonder if she'll have sex with me tonight

Oooh sounds like someone has their panties in a knot...