have a spouse on drugs?

Tough decision you have here. I'm old school and would normally vote for staying together, but he's gonna have to be the one to step up and see the hurt he is causing you and make it right. Some can say it depends on the drug, but the fact of the matter is, he's being deceitful and lying regardless of what the drug it is. Does he work and contribute to the household expenses? In this countries current effed up economic situation, it's stupid waste money on such nonsense or to jeopardize possibly losing a job if an employer were to implement a random drug test.

Tell him how you feel, ask him to get help, but don't give him an ultimatum. If he doesn't think the marriage is worth quitting for, then he made his decision and you should make yours. Good luck!

Listen to your mind. Sure, your heart is telling you stick it out and be there for him and all that gooey stuff. The times that people give up drugs, realize how much they've hurt you etc. etc. are few and far between and happen far more often on TV and the movies than in real life. Run while you can.

spouse? Im going to assume you are married then. You took a vow through thick and thin. Well, sweetheart this is thick!! Drugs are an addiction. Its not something he will just be able to stop by yo9u threatening to leave or telling him to stop. You need to help him seek professional help to work through this time in his life. Dont leave him. He has probably never needed you more than he needs your support now. Check into a rehab for him. Good luck.

My ex-husband used meth, and cheated on me. He went to jail on our 2nd anniversary, I was 9 weeks pregnant with twins and we had just bought a house. I ended up losing everything because I tried to stay with him. Because he was a convicted felon I had to submit to my home and vehicles being randomly searched, (I was pulled over on numerous occasions just because I visited him at the jail and they searched my car). If you leave before it's too late he may have a wake up call and realize he loves you more than the drugs and get clean. Once I left him (and he got out of jail) he got clean and we tried to make it work but the damage was done. It takes strength that you may think you don't posses to leave, but honey we all have it inside. Do what is right for you, before it's too late. Best of luck to you, and if you do leave let him know it's because you do love him and want him to get better, and that you refuse to be an enabler.

extreme project - he's an addict and not waiting to stop making use of or admit the quantity of the subject. And addicts lie - in basic terms a actuality. you could attempt to regulate him yet which will in basic terms artwork for a constrained quantity of time. (that's called co-dependence). you could attempt to assist him, yet which will in basic terms artwork whilst he's waiting. And whilst he's waiting he will choose help. even if you could't be waiting to watch for him to grow to be waiting. So - first, understand on your ideas and heart that that's not your fault, no count what he says (and quicker or later he will blame you, I assure it). next, get help for your self. Alanon, counseling, something that may assist you already know what that's all approximately and the thank you to handle it. you elect help, and innovations. you may get the two. study the language - you could study to be supportive of him with out being permitting - yet returned, he ought to be waiting to end. there's a great distinction between being supportive whilst and addict happens to be sober (permitting) and being supportive of an addict in sobriety (whilst he's waiting and attempting to stop). ultimately, do not enable this pass on too long. (even regardless of the incontrovertible fact that i would be unable to assert how long is basically too long.) you're youthful, you have an entire existence past to you. in case you wait too long for him to come again around, if he isn't prepared to attempt - sometime you will look back and sweetness "the place did my existence pass?" additionally, this might convey approximately a lot injury emotionally and financially. If he is going down the slippery slope he ought to take you with. suitable of success - my heart is going out to you.

Become his friend but end the relationship.

Stick by his side and try to get him help as a friend. Google drugs and you can read up on how devastating drug use can be for not only the user but for the friends and family as well.

You need to let him know that you will not stand by and watch him hurt himself like that. Basically give him a choice you or the drugs, if he choses the drugs you clearly know what to do. Time to nip this in the butt before it gets to serious. If he choses you, make him go into rehab, these drug addicts do not just stop because you want them to.

It's important for you to receive support right now. I'm not sure where you are from but I'll bet there are Al-anon meetings in your area. They are very supportive and you will be able to share with others who understand. Being in love and married to an addict is extremely difficult. If you listen to your heart, please seek support. No one understands like someone who has been in your shoes.

I had the same problem with my ex-husband. I tried staying thinking we could work through it, but in the end I realized that because he held that from me and lied I could no longer trust him, and without trust you can't love.

My ex-wife started smoking weed which got me started also. I stoped but she continued and it continued till she found somebody that did and left me for him. Try talking to him about it that it affects you. Good luck.