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Where are all the single gay men at?

I don't drink,(10 years sober) or smoke.So I don't go to the bars. The men at the AA meetings are all attached(the good looking ones anyway).I go on Craig's List and they are all straight80% of them cheating on their wives. Or gay cheating on their partners, or too young just playing games. I'm in my late 40's and would like a serious realationship with a decent Man.Any ideas where I could find one? I'm average looks, 6'2",180# br/blu so I'm not ugly either. I also love to cook, garden,bake, have my own gardening bussiness part time, cook at a senior and assistant living complex full time. I also have a cooking show on cable access. So I'm not looking for a sugar daddy, just a decent Man who would like another Man to take care of him spiritually and phsyically. I'm getting too old to be playing and want to settle down. Is that too much to ask for?

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    Ugh, I have similar troubles. I enjoy having a drink, but I don't want to rely on the bars to meet men. But, I can't find them anywhere else. I've been meeting guys on facebook, so you can try that. But, I suggest looking into www.meetup.com. It is a website where you can enter your area of interest and it tells you what groups meet in your area that fit your interests. Do several searches with different key words. For you, I'd try finding gay cooking groups, or gardening groups. Just try to join a social organization and meet some people. Eventually you will meet someone special. I'm still new to dating again this year, and I'm trying to find my way...unfortunately my city just doesn't separate gays and straights and gays blend in everywhere so I can find them because I don't have gaydar. LOL I also suggest gay bowling or gay sports. I know you don't go to bars for socialization, but many have sports teams. If it isn't too much temptation, you can always join one of those just to play ball. If none of that is an option, try contacting your local LGBT community center and see if they have volunteer opportunities. The key is to make gay friends, get invited to things, and in time you will meet some good people to date that can be recommended to you by people who know both of you.

  • 1 decade ago

    I would say that you are experience am age thing more that anything. As far as I can determine that are plenty of single gay men around that are over the age of 45, not anywhere as many single straight one. I have also met many gay men in AA. in fact in the meeting schedule in the region where I live there meetings are even designated that they are for gay's.

    When I was 50 I had similar feelings and now at 65 my thought is that the straight men of American missed out on a damn good woman and it is their loss.. I also thought that it was not to much to ask for - a descent man so share my life with, that is. So I wish you good luck, I have been told that if you present as being available and interested it happens, but I have also been told to ask for what you want and then be willing to accept the answer, even if it is not what you want to hear. You know some times God says yes, sometimes it is no and sometimes it is maybe so wait.

    Source(s): life, in and out of AA.
  • paula
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

    i don't think there is an sturdy stance, different than that the church believes a newborn merits to have a Father and a mom to enhance them. in spite of the undeniable fact that, there are various single mothers and dads interior the church who're doing a somewhat good activity. One would ought to ask themselves some questions in the previous adopting. Do i decide directly to offer an orphan a house or do i decide directly to have a newborn for egocentric reasons. i think of a house with a loving gay mothers and dads is greater effective than no living house in any respect.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If I was gay, I'd totally go for you, but I actually like my wife.

    Try some singles dating websites. Try to find guys in your age range, and be a little more open to ugly dudes. A lot of people will skim past their soul mate because they don't think they're pretty enough.

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  • 1 decade ago

    im gonna say lots of single gay dudes on dating sites thats the best place just be carful lots of weirdos on there too goodluck

  • ?
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    They actually have gay mens AA meetings here in CT. (6 yrs. sober in June) See if you can find one in your area.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    At the bar

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