Why doesn't my best friend want to talk to me?

Why:

Based on my experiences, it's because she's going through some things (not drugs or anything like that), and she's trying to figure herself out. It's best that she does it alone, when she has control over her time. Control is very important to people, especially people in this phase. Now, when you call her and chat with her, it's a routine task that takes up her time; and she loses control of that part of her life. The more you try to take that control away from her, the more she clings on to it and gets annoyed.

She gets annoyed that you ask her why, because she doesn't want to explain- she doesn't think you'll understand. Other people usually don't get it, no matter how close they are.

She gets annoyed that you think of your friendship as a conditional thing. In English, she thinks that you only think she's close to you IF you have those night time chats. If you do NOT, then you're not close.

It sounds like your friendship means something different to her right now, and she just wants you to understand that. I'm pretty sure she means what she says, and that you're still as important to her as she is to you. Just be there for her.

My advise:

I know it sucks, but you just have to leave her be, and tell her that you're just always there to talk. And when she's ready, she will.

If someone says that can't talk right now, it's alittle rude to ask them WHY. If they can't talk they can't talk! Just let it go and move on to the next day. Second if she says she's really close to you, then take her word for it, stop bringing up negative things and constantly asking her if she has a problem with you. If she is being close to another friend, that's okay, its normal, let her! All that matters is that she accept you for who you are, supports you, treats you right and keeps you out of trouble. that's all that matters from a good friend. If someone isn't paying as much attention to you, the best thing to do is to just let it go. quit texting her. she doesn't have to answer you every single day. Let her get a chance to miss your company and attention. Stay away from the phone and concentrate on your other friends.

Get busy with stuff that is not txting or emailing. That is, get a life! Really and truly, what do you actually DO???!! Nothing but electronic stuff. Get busy volunteering in a hosp[ital, old peoples' home, educational volunteering, like teaching children to read, or teaching English to migrants. There are thousands of things you could do that actually help you justify your space on this earth.

Volunteering would get you mixing with other people who have some passion for doing things rather than just hanging out. There is more to this world than nightly chats, for heavens sake!