Why do I act the way I do with my brother?

Your brother is going through that part of life where he is searching for his own identity,

While doing that he is trying to prioritise things in his life and work out what counts and what doesnt. Right now, Id say, hes full of hormones and is more focused on the things that feel best to him. This can other wise be termed as selfish.

It'll probably last for a while (men mature later than us women).

I would advise that you continue to try let him know how you are feeling. Writing a letter/s is probably the best way, that way he can read them when you arent present, and it might sink in a little more. Even though you think he isnt taking much notice, one day something small you have said will hit him and perhaps help him come to a reaslisation.

Hopefully, eventually, after some experience he will come out of the phase he is in with a new understanding of the important things in life - family, and relationships.

In the meantime, I think you should also spend some time trying to develop some other outside relationships, so that you have a support network to compliment any relaiotnship that you may have with your brother.

Hang in there!

... The truth is... There are a lot assholes in this world.

Man, I really can't think of a way you can get him to listen to you.

At least if he was mature, you could tell him about your feelings towards him, and that you really felt he was not just a brother but a great friend.

But from what it sounds like, it won't work on him...

Get you mind away from him. Though it sounds cruel, but for the sake of yourself, don't remember about the old days, because they will make you weak and teary.

Instead, get that much or more close to some of your friends, and you'll see that best friends like that will get you to care less and less about his existence.

Sorry if my advice sounds cruel and is literally telling you to forget about him and fill his space up better using someone else, but there are some people who doesn't understand.

Besides, why would it scare you? He doesn't care, then why should you?

When guys get older and to the college age, like your brother is, sometimes they can turn into real self-centered assholes. (pardon my vulgar language) It sounds like his group of friends is based around posers who think they're real cool **** when they're really not, and hang around with loose women because they're the only type of women they can really talk to. I wouldn't suggest you force your brother to do stuff with you (like take you to the movies) because that'll just annoy him further and he will really not want to be around you. Next time he's home and in between texting or calling someone, talk to him alone and make sure you get his attention. Explain to him that you miss the way things used to be, and you feel like he's deserting you. Tell him you're worried you won't have a brother to be friendly with in the future when you're adults, and you really don't want to lose him. Remind him that family comes before friends, because friends can screw you over and leave, but family is forever. This may be a phase that he's just in right now, and he may need to see how ridiculous it is. He will though. All people grow and mature, learning from their mistakes. Hope this was of some help to you, good luck with your situation.

In America 19 is considered being grown. Your brother wants to hang out with his friends not his little sister. Things change when you grow you'll understand and when you marry he will miss his little sister too. But you too will have started a new chapter in your life. Write your own journey and don't depend on anyone else. Good luck.

I know exactly how you feel. I think they are just starting to gain their Independence at that age. Don't feel bad about it. You just have to start ignoring him too. (: