Is This An Abusive Relationship?

Abusers often have a cycle of abuse--make up--abuse again. By "loyal and faithful" do you mean he never lets her go anywhere alone, and always knows what she's doing, and doesn't call anyone else names? Just because he's not sleeping with other woman, doesn't mean he isn't a d&*^.

Now, if you're talking about three or four incidents a year, it's probably not a big deal. I've been with a wonderful mate for five years, and sometimes he opens up a big can of jerkface. But if this is a regular pattern that always plays out the same way, then yes, it's an abusive relationship that needs to end.

Disrespectful: YES. But I don't know if I would go so far as to call it abusive. You still shouldn't take this kind of treatment from anyone, especially your boyfriend. Your relationship is the best it's going to be now, things only worsen with marriage. I hope you really think about that...

I wouldn't call it abusive ... but it isn't mature or healthy in the grand scheme of things. Besides, if you're relatively new in the relationship and he already feels comfortable calling you such things, it doesn't bode well for your future arguments as it gets easier every time to cross the line a little bit more.

OMG my ex used to do that every day and morning. Wow I was abused I had no idea my friends tell me their wives do the same thing. OMG we were all abused thank you so much for clearing that up

Now I can tell my shrink I was definitely abused Geez thats a load off my mind Oh get out of that relationship I don't want you to be married for 30 years and then get divorced after finding out about this abuse thank you

If he's using that language (and it's not an inside joke that both enjoy) that's the way he thinks of her. Apologizing later is just his way of recovering. It's not physically abusive yet, but it could certainly be considered emotionally abusive. It certainly isn't doing anything for her self-esteem.

Time for her to move along, there's someone out there who will love her completely.

Abuse is determined on the effects that it has on the other person. Its inappropriate for sure but sometimes we all say things we don't mean. So it depends on how she feels because of it. Good luck.

ammmmmmmmmmmm kinda abusive If any man spoke to me that way now I would be on a Jetplane away from him {because I married a man who started off speaking to me like that after a few months and then got worse calling me names swearing at me then we had kids and he continued to do it so goodbye i left] but in general couples do have rows occassionally so if that is the case lovers tiff

Not to worry

no i call my hubby all the names under the sun in an argument and vice versa but hes not a battered husband n neitha am i a battered wife lol we probably shouldnt do it cos its not very nice but it is in the heat of the moment so if its a tiff then as long as he knows he has done wrong and sincerly knows then you probly should let it go but if its getting you down and ruining your self confidence and he knows it its cruel and you shouldnt even bother staying with them as you could probably do better

Ermm no,not at all.Nowhere near an abusive relationship - doesn't hit her,force her to have sex etc etc

It's not something I would put up with, but I don't think it qualifies as abuse. Douchebaggery, for sure, but not so much abuse.