are women over a certain age "invisible" to men?

Not just invisible to men but to everyone. I once read a story about a middle aged woman who lived alone and frequently would stop people and ask them if they could see her -- she thought she might be disappearing because no one seemed to notice her. I sometimes feel that way.

I think it has to do with how a woman presents herself. If she wants to attract a man, there are all kinds of men looking for different things. One might still be hung up on beauty and another on weight. the kind of man a woman wants is one who will look for a companion and not a object. No matter what age I have been I have never had a problem finding a man if I was interested, why because I like men. I am older, I don't like that! You can't make age go away. You learn to live with it and try to make the best with what you have.

My second husband was 10 years younger than me.

We matched up good. The age difference was nothing. I have always been an active person. I never acted my age. I didn't look my age. I have never felt invisable to men, I would feel totaly rejected if that happened.

I will fight for attention as long as I have any control over myself. Don't ever give up on yourself. Stay in style no matter what size you are. A good hair style does wonders. Remember a little powder and paint nakes a woman look what she ain't.

Generally speaking, men tend to have an advantage when it comes to dating women, as in that it's "accepted" for them to be younger. That being a starting point, I'd say men in their 50's and 60's probably do notice women in their 40's and 50's, but it's probably largely dependent on how good they look, and the connection with each. Men are very "visual", not by choice by the way, and therefore will always find beautiful, younger women attractive.

This is a question where the answer is that the "invisibility" works both ways. Both men and women do the same thing. There are most likely many men who feel the same way and believe they are overlooked at times.

Well, I'm 20, so to be honest yes, it's very rare to see a 40+ woman who's looks are jaw dropping.

As bad as this may sound, but most, (if not all guys) when they're really honest, are shallow.

Looks matter but you can be stunning, open your mouth and paint a vile picture of yourself through words alone, or a girl can be considered ugly but when you get to know her seems good looking to you but even then it'd probably be a no in terms of romance and the likes.

Also most women above 40 are usually married so there's the subconscious filter you could say.

But it really does depend, some people are into older women, depends on your fetish I guess :P

Not so much a preference, but a realisation that this is the way that life should be. To give up the wild life and thrill of the chase and settle down. At the end of the day if you want a family we all want someone with a sense of responsibility and that can behave and be a good role model. Hopefully we will all end up with nice consistent and responsible men with a wild streak that they let out in the bedroom LOL

I hear similar comments from some of the women I know who are over 50; but not all of us feel that way.

I know that I am not ogled at by men like I was when I was a young woman; but I am not ignored either. Honestly; my personality and behavior have always been part of my attraction and these things have improved with age.

When I'm in a situation to have a conversation with females an under 30 something comes in about the same time the over 50 comes in, I will speak to the over 50 first as I'm guaranteed I will have the more intelligent conversation.Plus the 45 or older is so much more attractive.

They are very visable to this man.

Each Friday night during the summer, I attend a concert here in town in the square. The concerts are a part of a series they call ' Rally in the Square '. Anyway, there are dozens upon dozens of older women there, and I am the one who goes unnoticed by THEM, not the other way around. Where you got that idea, I'll never know!

By the way...I am male, 59 years old.

' Doris ' : Outstanding answer! Obviously, you're a confident woman, and confidence makes anyone attractive, regardless of gender.

' blu ' : Love your answer! Your mother is extremely lucky to have you.

As I recall those women in the office who were over 40 or 50 usually had allot of power in there position or allot of knowledge about there job or both and were hardly ignored by us younger men.

When I was working for my self and trying to sell to different companies I always tried to find out who the power lady was in the office and made it a special point to get on her best side.